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Non Gaming Discussions => Off-Topic => Topic started by: Living-In-Clip on August 26, 2001, 03:47:24 PM
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Relationships suck. Or I should say, I suck.
I\'ve been dating my current girlfriend for about seven months now. We never made it "exclusive" though, because I just got out of a three year relationship and the thought of being "exclusive" just freaked me out. I also refused to say the \'L word\' (love). She would tell me that someone asked her out or something and she always said no. I, for some reason, kept telling her it was okay and I understood if she wanted to go out with someone else - after all I am the first one she has had a serious relationship with. Well, you know what they say.. You can only encourage someone so much until they go out and do it.
Flash foward to lastnight (Saturday). She signs online because my phone is busy and asks me if I wish to meet her parents finally. I say sure and we all go out to dinner. Her father and I hit it off and her mother and I , well her mother didn\'t really like me, but oh well. I thought everything was perfect. Little did I know.. My girlfriend and I get alone for alittle bit and she tells me she went out with the other guy one day. I was shocked to say the least and felt my heart just totally drop. What I thought wouldn\'t bother me , infact totally destroyed me. It occured to me at that very mintue, the thing I said I didn\'t want, an exclusive relationship with her, is what I actually do want.
She felt bad about it and asked me if I was mad at her. I explained to her, I couldn\'t be mad at her. I in reality, encouraged her to go do it. I was mad at myself. She asked me why I never said I loved her and other things, why I avoided anything that was commited . She basically doubted that I was serious about her. She had her doubts on me, because I was an idiot. Sure, I would do romantic things like surprise her with gifts, but when it came to me saying I loved her or displaying a small amount of jealousy just to show I care, I never did.
We discussed things barely, before her parents found us off in a corner. Of course, we didn\'t discuss it with them there and decided that we would go out on her next day off and just discuss things. Say everything that needs to be said and see where it goes from there. I have confidence that when we discuss everything, her and I will end up commited to each other and so on. However, if we don\'t, I have no one to blame except myself. That is the whole point to this thread, don\'t be a total idiot and pretend you don\'t want something, to find out that you do when its too late. They say you live and learn from the lessons in life but I can say this is one lesson that I wish I would of avoided.
Just don\'t be an idiot and say what you have to say. Don\'t act like me. Because at this point, I am a complete idiot.
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YOU IDIOT!!! JK :D I feel sorry for you.... I hope that dat don\'t happen to me;).....:D
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boy was that dumb!!!JK
poor thing:crying:
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yet another reason why i should not get a girlfriend.... jk.
man that sucks, livin, i hope everything works out, if you explain everything to her, she should understand..
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Wow, that was really dumb. You\'re a complete idiot. N/K(not kidding).
LIC- "Yeah honey, it\'s ok to have crazy sex other guys. I don\'t mind a bit. "
LIC, are you a moron in a cage?
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YOU SAID I WAS THE ONLY ONE. HOW CAN YOU DO THIS TO ME, FIRST SAMWISE NOW YOU. I FEEL SO ABANDONED BUHUHUHUHU :crying:
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Correction: I never mentioned sex. They met and went to a movie one night and that was it. Though, even she did have sex , techincally it would be because I\'m an idiot, so all the remarks saying I\'m an idiot - well, are accepted and so very true.
;)
My only point to the thread was, sometimes we feel things and don\'t say them for whatever reason and it ends up costing us. My reason was fear of commiting due to a prior relationship. It seemed like a good reason at the time, but now I realize it was a dumb reason.
YOU SAID I WAS THE ONLY ONE. HOW CAN YOU DO THIS TO ME, FIRST SAMWISE NOW YOU. I FEEL SO ABANDONED BUHUHUHUHU
Well, you live so far away and you never call anymore.
:(
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You\'ve been so cold and distant these last few days, I needed a break. And now I get these news.......all I can say is that me and Sublimesjg will be very happy for the rest of our lives.
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Originally posted by Living-In-Clip
Relationships suck. Or I should say, I suck.
I\'ve been dating my current girlfriend for about seven months now. We never made it "exclusive" though, because I just got out of a three year relationship and the thought of being "exclusive" just freaked me out. I also refused to say the \'L word\' (love). She would tell me that someone asked her out or something and she always said no. I, for some reason, kept telling her it was okay and I understood if she wanted to go out with someone else - after all I am the first one she has had a serious relationship with. Well, you know what they say.. You can only encourage someone so much until they go out and do it.
Flash foward to lastnight (Saturday). She signs online because my phone is busy and asks me if I wish to meet her parents finally. I say sure and we all go out to dinner. Her father and I hit it off and her mother and I , well her mother didn\'t really like me, but oh well. I thought everything was perfect. Little did I know.. My girlfriend and I get alone for alittle bit and she tells me she went out with the other guy one day. I was shocked to say the least and felt my heart just totally drop. What I thought wouldn\'t bother me , infact totally destroyed me. It occured to me at that very mintue, the thing I said I didn\'t want, an exclusive relationship with her, is what I actually do want.
She felt bad about it and asked me if I was mad at her. I explained to her, I couldn\'t be mad at her. I in reality, encouraged her to go do it. I was mad at myself. She asked me why I never said I loved her and other things, why I avoided anything that was commited . She basically doubted that I was serious about her. She had her doubts on me, because I was an idiot. Sure, I would do romantic things like surprise her with gifts, but when it came to me saying I loved her or displaying a small amount of jealousy just to show I care, I never did.
We discussed things barely, before her parents found us off in a corner. Of course, we didn\'t discuss it with them there and decided that we would go out on her next day off and just discuss things. Say everything that needs to be said and see where it goes from there. I have confidence that when we discuss everything, her and I will end up commited to each other and so on. However, if we don\'t, I have no one to blame except myself. That is the whole point to this thread, don\'t be a total idiot and pretend you don\'t want something, to find out that you do when its too late. They say you live and learn from the lessons in life but I can say this is one lesson that I wish I would of avoided.
Just don\'t be an idiot and say what you have to say. Don\'t act like me. Because at this point, I am a complete idiot.
I know what you mean. :(
I had missed a lot of opportunities in my past with girls i really liked, and even loved, but i was too stupid, and proud to be honest with them... i still regret it.:(
Sara if you are reading this, I LOVE YOU !
right, like she would care now. :rolleyes:
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Originally posted by Living-In-Clip
I am a complete idiot.
JOIN THE CLUB
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tell you what i suck at relationships ...... i mean suck !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:mad:
i know its all my fault ..... my self esteem ! its a killer ..... :(
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Calling LiC an idiot isn\'t going to help him any. Even though he himself feels that way, we mustn\'t reiterate that point. I\'m sure he feels bad enough as it is.
/ dm /
I hear ya clip, at least you\'ve realized your mistake and you can still do something about it, if you wish to. G\'luck man.
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I do this kind of dumb crap all the time. Though not as serious as you.
Really hot girls (d\'oh!) always have like really huge crushes on me, before they even really get to know me, but I am too blinded by my own instinct to have fun, I never realize it, til they get over me for not showing ay interest, although I do, just not showing it!!!
Clip, you have just inspired me to call this girl I went to prom with last year, she really digs me and I think she is really hot and probably smarter than me, so who knows.
Wish me luck, fellow fools!
Eric Jacob
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HA HA! I NEVER HAVE EVEN BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP OF ANY KIND! BEAT THAT, LOSERS!
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Originally posted by Living-In-Clip
I have confidence that when we discuss everything, her and I will end up commited to each other and so on.
I could tell much worse stories of idiocy than this one, so don\'t feel so bad. I think your girlfriend just did this to get your attention, and it worked. If she\'s the one for you, then consider yourself lucky that she took matters into her own hands. Know thyself, and you\'ll always know what to do.
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Your not an idiot. Your just a typical guy. We are all too cool to be in love. Thats what we tell ourselves or we just dont want to show it. But that of course is the dumb thing to do.
Guys have just got to be more honest with themselves
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I\'d never want to be AlteredBeast\'s girlfriend...
AB\'s Girlfriend: If you make me dress up like Ulala again I will kill you in your sleep, you treacherous ****sucker.
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Originally posted by AlteredBeast
I do this kind of dumb crap all the time. Though not as serious as you.
Really hot girls (d\'oh!) always have like really huge crushes on me, before they even really get to know me, but I am too blinded by my own instinct to have fun, I never realize it, til they get over me for not showing ay interest, although I do, just not showing it!!!
Clip, you have just inspired me to call this girl I went to prom with last year, she really digs me and I think she is really hot and probably smarter than me, so who knows.
Wish me luck, fellow fools!
Eric Jacob
good luck, hopefully youll get her, man, i dont even know where to start here, school just started and im here on my freetime, jeez, what a life i have..
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Sara if you are reading this, I LOVE YOU !
Toxical, I was willing to give us another chance, but when I walked in and saw you lounging on the couch with those electrodes attached to your abs, I knew we weren\'t meant to be.
But seriously, L-I-C, it was very wise not to rush into a serious relationship. 7 months seems like a reasonable timespan to realize what your true feelings are. It\'s a good sign that she invited you to meet her parents, and that she was willing to have a civilized conversation with you about her date. If it turns out that she\'s more interested in this other guy, you\'ll be grateful that you maintained emotional distance for the first part of the relationship.
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Hey, I just want a little Ulala loving, suga!
Eric Jacob
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Originally posted by Sara
Toxical, I was willing to give us another chance, but when I walked in and saw you lounging on the couch with those electrodes attached to your abs, I knew we weren\'t meant to be.
But seriously, L-I-C, it was very wise not to rush into a serious relationship. 7 months seems like a reasonable timespan to realize what your true feelings are. It\'s a good sign that she invited you to meet her parents, and that she was willing to have a civilized conversation with you about her date. If it turns out that she\'s more interested in this other guy, you\'ll be grateful that you maintained emotional distance for the first part of the relationship.
Sara, please don\'t leave me, i\'m sending the electrodes back, i\'m doing exercise the old fashioned way. honest ;) LOL :laughing: :laughing:
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Originally posted by AlteredBeast
Clip, you have just inspired me to call this girl I went to prom with last year, she really digs me and I think she is really hot and probably smarter than me, so who knows.
Wish me luck, fellow fools!
Eric Jacob
I\'m glad I inspired someone. Good luck,man.
;)
JOIN THE CLUB
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You\'ve been so cold and distant these last few days, I needed a break. And now I get these news.......all I can say is that me and Sublimesjg will be very happy for the rest of our lives.
Only until Sub finds out about you and Weltall\'s little \'thang\'.
:D
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Your not an idiot. Your just a typical guy.
Typical guys are idiots. I know, I\'m one of them. ;)
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Still an idiot.
Only thing that has changed, is different women.
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Damn. I read through your entire original post before I realized it was 8 years old.
Still having problems committing to one woman or showing you want to? I feel you man. Story of my life.
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Going through a separation now (and not for reasons most will think).
Bright side is, its a civil one. We\'re splitting custody of the kids. I\'ll have them four days a week - can\'t complain with that.
Keeping my apartment and all my stuff, so yeah.
Woot?
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Going through a separation now (and not for reasons most will think).
Bright side is, its a civil one. We\'re splitting custody of the kids. I\'ll have them four days a week - can\'t complain with that.
Keeping my apartment and all my stuff, so yeah.
Woot?
That\'s good. Usually you hear of the woman trying to clean the man out. Its great that you get to see your kids.
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Yeah, complicated though. Sort of seeing another girl also.
It\'s a mess - my mess though, that\'s the bonus of it all!
:D
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You\'ll pull through.... Just try not to have reason to resurrect this thread in 2016.
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Yeah, complicated though. Sort of seeing another girl also.
It\'s a mess - my mess though, that\'s the bonus of it all!
:D
That\'s good. I have no idea of my girl situation anymore. Just trying to keep my options open at this point :shy:
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That\'s a respectable attitude, Titan. Keep your options open and don\'t limit yourself to women.
Humans, either, for that matter.
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That\'s a respectable attitude, Titan. Keep your options open and don\'t limit yourself to women.
Humans, either, for that matter.
Do I look like unicron to you?
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Going through a separation now (and not for reasons most will think).
Bright side is, its a civil one. We\'re splitting custody of the kids. I\'ll have them four days a week - can\'t complain with that.
Keeping my apartment and all my stuff, so yeah.
Woot?
I didn\'t know you got married. While I remember how bad you use to talk about women. I thought you could never trust one. I use to have the same exact attitude. Now I am engadge. So life changes.
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I never did get married. We were together for four years altogether. She moved out this past Wednesday.. I get my girls on Friday - Sunday and sometimes Thursday - Sunday also I call them every night before they go to bed.
Apartment is sort of empty, but peaceful in a certain way. Had a "friend" over last night, since my girls weren\'t here.
Right now, I\'m walking around in my boxers listening to Etta James.
Something to be said for being single.
I missed it!
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you never did get married so is the custody an arrangement or drawn up legally?
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Right now an arrangement, but going to draw it up legally in the next few weeks.