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Non Gaming Discussions => Off-Topic => Topic started by: Rick on May 03, 2002, 09:15:01 AM
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Following in the footsteps of some of our favourite members, I now have the women problem. Here goes:
I have been with my girl for 4 and a half years. Shes great and I love her loads. Thing is recently I\'ve been getting real bored with her and she just doesnt interest me much anymore, it aint exactly happenin in the bedroom either. Also, over the past few weeks, I\'ve been gettin offers off really hot girls, and it sorta makes me think its time to move on. I mean, I\'m only 19, and she has been my only proper girlfriend. I know if I end it she\'ll be hurt, but I just dont know what to do, I\'m very confused. I think ending it would be best for me, but I dont want to see her upset, but its all been making me feel really down the past few days. Anyway, your contributions are welcome, I\'m goin to go and finish my Jack Daniels off. :(
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Sometimes people get hurt. If your not happy shes probally aint happy, I say end it and move on.
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Wake up man! Your only 19, you got your life ahead of you and as my grandfather always said “There’s not a handful, but a land full” (meaning woman of course). Like Heat said, if your not happy, she probably ain’t happy.
But be careful, pissing 4 and a half years away is a d*mn shame.
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I had this same problem this past summer, but we worked through it, and fixed all the boringness in our relationship, but the thing is to do what ever makes u happy!!!
:bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
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I know, and the past means a lot, but I really feel its time for a change, the problem now lies with how to tell her
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ending it is the only right thing to do.. right now by being with her you are lying to yourself and her..
but then again, you say you still love her.. your just bored? you love her, but not in the way you used to? your just not interested in her and want to move on? then you must move on..
life sucks
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Originally posted by Rick
I know, and the past means a lot, but I really feel its time for a change, the problem now lies with how to tell her
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Gotta be straight forward about it, cant pull her along like shes a dog on a leash, just straight up tell her how u feel. Minus the part about the other hot girl offers, then u might get killed.
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Originally posted by Bobs_Hardware
ending it is the only right thing to do.. right now by being with her you are lying to yourself and her..
but then again, you say you still love her.. your just bored? you love her, but not in the way you used to? your just not interested in her and want to move on? then you must move on..
life sucks
I spose I love her more like a family member than a partner now, the spark has very much gone.
Originally posted by mjps21983
Gotta be straight forward about it, cant pull her along like shes a dog on a leash, just straight up tell her how u feel. Minus the part about the other hot girl offers, then u might get killed.
Yeah, I know, cheers for reminding me to leave out the \'hot girls\' part
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Originally posted by Rick
Yeah, I know, cheers for reminding me to leave out the \'hot girls\' part
No problem!!!
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you gotta do what you gotta do man. bottom line.
she\'ll be fine.
hell, she\'ll probably find someone BETTER than you... so EAT THAT!
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Originally posted by LUKE
you gotta do what you gotta do man. bottom line.
she\'ll be fine.
hell, she\'ll probably find someone BETTER than you... so EAT THAT!
Not possible :D
Hey LUKE, fancy a swap for a bit?
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Originally posted by Rick
Not possible :D
Hey LUKE, fancy a swap for a bit?
you wish buddy!
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Originally posted by LUKE
hell, she\'ll probably find someone BETTER than you... so EAT THAT!
HAHAHAHA
hot damn..
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I tell you what, I aint lookin forward to tellin her 2morrow......
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You\'re still in love with her, right? Consider how scared you are about telling her and hurting her. From a scale of 1-10, is the scared level at 10 or close to it? 4 and a half years is a long time and that tingly, new feeling may be fading. I totally know how you feel. There was a time when Ryu and I were bored to tears with each other.
What you need to do is rekindle that tingly feeling. Do something new. Ask her out on a date like it was your first. Do something different like take her to a play where she can dress up and eat at a fancy restaurant. Cooking is even better! Or better yet, bake something with her. This summer you two can take an activity course at your local recreation center. Or volunteer in the community together. You don\'t have to talk or converse with each other. Just do. You can discuss with her what kinds of different things she wants to do. Do something meaningful to the both of you.
Don\'t try to dismiss the relationship just because you both are bored. That\'s not how you fix things. Try to bring that old spark back. Who cares if you\'re young? What if you were to break up and that was the biggest mistake of your life?
Anyway, I wish you luck.
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Originally posted by Rya
You\'re still in love with her, right? Consider how scared you are about telling her and hurting her. From a scale of 1-10, is the scared level at 10 or close to it? 4 and a half years is a long time and that tingly, new feeling may be fading. I totally know how you feel. There was a time when Ryu and I were bored to tears with each other.
What you need to do is rekindle that tingly feeling. Do something new. Ask her out on a date like it was your first. Do something different like take her to a play where she can dress up and eat at a fancy restaurant. Cooking is even better! Or better yet, bake something with her. This summer you two can take an activity course at your local recreation center. Or volunteer in the community together. You don\'t have to talk or converse with each other. Just do. You can discuss with her what kinds of different things she wants to do. Do something meaningful to the both of you.
Don\'t try to dismiss the relationship just because you both are bored. That\'s not how you fix things. Try to bring that old spark back. Who cares if you\'re young? What if you were to break up and that was the biggest mistake of your life?
Anyway, I wish you luck.
Rick u should listen to this Rya he/she has a good point. But if thats not what you wanna do than just break to her.
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Thanks for the help Rya, the thing is, today, I have reached breaking point and I dont think there is any way back, its really started to f**k me up. I\'ve been tryin so hard for 18 months now, and its just stressed me out too much. Its finally got to me and I dont think I can take it any more. I\'ll fill yous in tomorrow, thanx for the help anyway guys, much appreciated.
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Rick u should listen to this Rya he/she has a good point. But if thats not what you wanna do than just break to her.
She has a great point and I am her significant other. :)
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Originally posted by Ryu
She has a great point and I am her significant other. :)
haha.. I cracked up when I read that..
Yeah.. Rya\'s got it down.. lol
But hey... Don\'t do anything you\'ll regret..
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Rya has a very good point. And 4 yrs as a lot to though away. 3 things you need to rember here. 1 is that in any realationship you WILL get bored. I have been with my wife now for 5 yrs, and yes there are times that I woud rather be a work then home. You have to work in a realationship. 2 You will all ways get offers. Just becouse you are in a realationship doesn\'t mean that you have blinders on. I dont put myself in a place that I have to say no, I stay away from the temptation. And 3, you have offers know but as soon as you become singel those offers are out the window.
But it realy sounds like you have made up your mind as it is.
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I had the same problem........I got over it and moved on.....BTW Welome t the Forums Rya!
:hat:ScottyJ:hat:
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haha.. I cracked up when I read that..
Why?
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Does that make you a shemale? :D
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Originally posted by Rick
Thanks for the help Rya, the thing is, today, I have reached breaking point and I dont think there is any way back, its really started to f**k me up. I\'ve been tryin so hard for 18 months now, and its just stressed me out too much. Its finally got to me and I dont think I can take it any more. I\'ll fill yous in tomorrow, thanx for the help anyway guys, much appreciated.
Oh, I\'m so sorry to hear that, Rick. I hope that you can work things out someway, someday. *here comes another Ryu and me story*...Ryu and I actually broke up for a year because we thought we couldn\'t work things out. We were in the same rut as you, but we decided to give it another shot. I swear, when we got back together and some time had passed, we were fighting as though we were picking it up from where we left off. But we learned how to talk to each other and work out problems no matter how ugly it got. It was a tough road.
So I wish you the same. It\'d be shame to let 4 and a half years of effort and commitment go to waste.
.....BTW Welome t the Forums Rya!
Thanks for the greeting, KillaX!
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Originally posted by Styx
but as soon as you become singel those offers are out the window.
WORD
They only want what they can\'t get.
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Rick is obviously leaving out a lot of detail here. To say you are bored with a relationship and that the sex isn\'t good anymore, well that is your fault and her fault. And what makes you think a different girl would be any better?
No one ever said a relationship is easy. Anyone can have a girlfriend for a year or two. It\'s making it last 5-10-20-50 years is what counts. Lona and I have our boring times, but we try to do things together at least every once and a while to get us through.
Hot chicks come and go. Luckily mine came and stayed.
Anyway, my advice is to imagine that your chick is the only girl in the world. If she is the only girl in the world then you better make her happy or she will leave you. Do some things to make yourselves feel like it\'s all new.... By some edible underwear and a 2 foot dildo.
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Thanx for all the advice guys, you\'ve really helped me out. She came round last night and we tried to sort things out. We have split up for now, but will still have to see each other as we have the same friends. Its gonna be hard, but we\'ll see how it goes. I doubt it will be long before we are back together. Thanks again, and vid, I\'ll be borrowing that 2 foot dildo off you, ok :D
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Originally posted by Videoholic
By some edible underwear and a 2 foot dildo.
I think n0-0ne is busy this weekend.
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Originally posted by Videoholic
No one ever said a relationship is easy. Anyone can have a girlfriend for a year or two. It\'s making it last 5-10-20-50 years is what counts. Lona and I have our boring times, but we try to do things together at least every once and a while to get us through.
Hot chicks come and go. Luckily mine came and stayed.
I would never think for a moment a man with a picture of arafat striping would give good relationship adivice way to go vid
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i know its after now, but yeah think about it!!!! i mean 4 years is a ong time, and there must be some eason youv been ogether that long......id try to work on it..... ok the other girls may be hot, but you may only seethem once....if i was you id work on it!!!! the worst that can happen is that split....but if you split and then relise its a mistake.....u prob wont get her back,,as she wll hve moved on, or just pulled loadsa other men!!!
but yeah idtake her out, do some stuff different