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Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: ooseven on October 29, 2002, 02:57:15 AM
Ok I am going to do something stupid

Or maybe not

Before I start …I must state that I am 100% happy with Miss Money Penny (aka Susan) and wouldn’t think of doing anything stupid to endanger our relationship…BUT
I have been thinking about my last Girlfriend (Julie) who moved down to Leicester nearly 4 years ago,  anyway its not because I still have feelings for her I just want to have a  chance to chat to her  & to catch up on old times(I got her Email from friendsreunited)

Anyway I wouldn’t of though off doing this until now

You see recently I have started to have dreams with her in them , no sammy not those kind of dreams. but they have been about us talking and resolving a lot of lose ends.

Anyway I am at a loss of what to do should I contact her via email or should I just leave it ?

The bond mister needs advice !

p.s. i need advice so the thread is sticky for 48 hours (thats 2 days kopking ;) :p )
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: CHIZZY on October 29, 2002, 03:57:27 AM
don\'t do it, bro. It can only lead to trouble. Trust me, I had the same situation recently.
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: videoholic on October 29, 2002, 05:15:45 AM
Only leads you to trouble and you will be in a stickier situation than this sticky thread.
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: ROL Jamas on October 29, 2002, 05:56:55 AM
Speaking of stickiness, why is this a sticky?

Sports lovers get called out for having 3 stickies at one time, then we get a ooseven I need help sticky :)

Oh well, works for me. I\'m not complaining. Either way, I don\'t have any help....so uh, don\'t do it, I think. Yeah. Listen to Vid and Chiz.

See Yuz.
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: videoholic on October 29, 2002, 06:32:36 AM
I was wondering the same thing about the sticky.  I was going to throw a yellow flag for flagrant use of mod powers, but to each his own.  I was excited when I released the World Series from the sticky and now we are back to three again.

Just don\'t go.  It never helps.  Especially if you still think about her.  I have one X that I am fine with.  She came to my wedding and all is cool.  My other X I\'d never subject myself to.  Nothing would ever happen, but it\'s just not fair to my wife, nor myself emotionally.
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: ooseven on October 29, 2002, 06:46:23 AM
its because i can\'t sleep anymore

i am begining to think that my Ex implanted me with a neruo clone or something (farscape refrence)

i call her Harvey ;)

sorry peeps

its now unstuck

thanks for the input please give more, i was going to email her but i am begining to think its a bad iead..esp seeing that she knows what buttons to push to me a Slave :(.

P.S

I would like to add that these dreams I am having are not sticky
 
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: ROL Jamas on October 29, 2002, 07:26:53 AM
Hahaha, yeah, well, that\'s probably a good thing. If it\'s all about tying up loose ends, that\'s probably good. Getting emotionally attatched again, that\'s where you\'d probably have to draw the line. Tie up the loose ends, and get it over with. Something along those lines might help. Then again, I\'m not really sure.

See Yuz.
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: ooseven on October 29, 2002, 07:35:47 AM
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Originally posted by ROL Jamas
Hahaha, yeah, well, that\'s probably a good thing. If it\'s all about tying up loose ends, that\'s probably good. Getting emotionally attatched again, that\'s where you\'d probably have to draw the line. Tie up the loose ends, and get it over with. Something along those lines might help. Then again, I\'m not really sure.

See Yuz.


am i reading this wrong or are you asking me to slip her one for old times sake ?:confused: :confused:

;)
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: on October 29, 2002, 07:36:53 AM
I hope Miss Moneypenny doesn\'t decide to log onto the forums and see what her secret agent has been up to.  She will be :mad: and you will be :crying:
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: ooseven on October 29, 2002, 07:39:18 AM
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Originally posted by Sara
I hope Miss Moneypenny doesn\'t decide to log onto the forums and see what her secret agent has been up to.  She will be :mad: and you will be :crying:


its cool i have a plan for that...

if she asks i will say that my ex is realy Sammy

that way the will think i am secretly gay.

Anyway the contact will/ would be purely plutonic ..as in no strings attached, it was just a idea i had because on of my old school chums gave me her Email address.
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: QuDDus on October 29, 2002, 07:43:38 AM
doesn\'t sound like much of a dilemma if all your trying do is say hi and catch up on old times. The dilemma is if your trying to score. Which could be the case.
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: videoholic on October 29, 2002, 07:46:18 AM
He hasn\'t said much bad.  It\'s not like he has said he wants to go and give her a poke..

Everyone has dreams about X\'s..  It\'s natural.  But to strike back a friendship with someone that you not only have dreams of, but you still have feelings for is wrong.
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: ooseven on October 29, 2002, 07:49:19 AM
Quote
Originally posted by QuDDus
doesn\'t sound like much of a dilemma if all your trying do is say hi and catch up on old times. The dilemma is if your trying to score. Which could be the case.


Yes and No

Yes your right on the dilemma part

and no i wouldn\'t try and score, thats the reason why it ended, we just couldn\'t get on.

When we where together we argued a LOT but when we are friends we are best of buds.

the only possible problem is that it has been 4 years and we haven\'t seen each other since ... so sudenly saying Hi might be a bit award.
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: Samwise on October 29, 2002, 07:52:11 AM
Don\'t do it man. :crying:
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: ooseven on October 29, 2002, 07:54:38 AM
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Originally posted by Videoholic
He hasn\'t said much bad.  It\'s not like he has said he wants to go and give her a poke..

Everyone has dreams about X\'s..  It\'s natural.  But to strike back a friendship with someone that you not only have dreams of, but you still have feelings for is wrong.


Well put

you see the strange thing is that nothing has sparked this off

me and Susan are going Superb

i am happy with my life (doing great at the moment)

and i have stop pinning after my ex long before i meet Susan.

and that was well over 4 years ago

hey maybe its my subconscious telling me not to worry about Susan, and she won’t leave me before the wedding or something like that. You know i have been planning the wedding and the pressure is starting to build(the money costs that is).
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: on October 29, 2002, 07:55:57 AM
Okay, here\'s my suggestion:  If you still can\'t get this woman off your mind 1 month from now....

...ask Miss Moneypenny how she feels about 3somes.  :D
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: ooseven on October 29, 2002, 07:56:09 AM
Quote
Originally posted by Samwise
Don\'t do it man. :crying:


what the tell Susan i am Gay and run off with you part ?
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: mm on October 29, 2002, 07:57:23 AM
wash your hands of her, ooseven

thats the best thing you can do
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: ooseven on October 29, 2002, 08:00:00 AM
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Originally posted by Sara
Okay, here\'s my suggestion:  If you still can\'t get this woman off your mind 1 month from now....

...ask Miss Moneypenny how she feels about 3somes.  :D


damn it Sara you know all our male secrets ;)

j/k

p.s.

i don\'t care about the issue anymore.. i have managed to get Sara to mention 3somes :D

;)

/me waits for the omen to rape him
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: nO-One on October 29, 2002, 08:10:11 AM
Ahhhh don\'t do it buddy. I\'ve seen too many comedies with similar situations. Allthough most of them end well in real life things never end well.

My advice to you.

1st. Sit down in your favourite chair
2nd. Turn on the TV
3rd. Don\'t think about your ex.

It\'ll work
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: ooseven on October 29, 2002, 08:17:20 AM
thanks no-one & mm and everyone else

but don\'t worry I am not going to do anything to this Ex

the only thing I was considering doing is to either


that’s It … I know I am boring but hey I am happyly in love or Lerrvveee with Susan
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: Kurt Angle on October 29, 2002, 08:18:33 AM
There is nothing wrong with contacting her, just make it clear you are engaged to be married and very happy with your life.
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: nO-One on October 29, 2002, 11:54:41 AM
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Originally posted by ooseven
  • Or write a email to my mate Colin who is going to marry her sister and get him to say hi

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Jebus man, for a second there I thought it said "who is going to marry his sister"
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: Luke on October 29, 2002, 12:41:19 PM
trust me on this man, dont even bother.
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: kopking on October 29, 2002, 01:14:23 PM
id would contact her, i mean you dont have those feelings for her no more, you are still friends i take it?? i mean you are well over her,so would be nice, i know there is atleast 1 ex of mine iwish i still saw and could get in contact with, not cos i still in love with her, but cos she was a very good mate
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: EmperorRob on October 29, 2002, 01:16:09 PM
Sure you could call her and sure it could be ok, but don\'t get near the fire and you won\'t have to worry about a burnt weenie.  If you get my drift.
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: Jar O Pickles on October 29, 2002, 01:22:17 PM
making contact really does just make things worse every once in a while ill have a dream about my ex and wanna just catch up with her but it goes away after a few days and i feel better not having talked to her
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: kopking on October 29, 2002, 01:25:05 PM
i just wanna add, i had email from peep from friends reunited, some from like when i was 10, so aint seen for 10 years, some as i changed schools i aint seen for like 5 years, and some i not seen in like 4 etc..... i really enjoyed catchin up with them, also have somehow met peep, like when going to college who hadnt seen 4 years, and you know when your younger its a shame you lose some friends cos they move/you move etc.....


i must say aswell i had one email from someone i bearly knew, they were more mate of a mate,, but never knew her, nad i must say i saw my old mate, and she was there as they still mates, and she is prob like one of my better friends
Title: oosevens dilemma (need Advice)
Post by: Rya on October 29, 2002, 05:03:40 PM
Here\'s my input, if it\'s still worth reading.

I think that you should first talk to Miss Money Penny about your ex.  Reassure your gf that she\'s the one and only and that there is no other.  Then tell her about your dreams that you\'ve been having.  If it\'s absolutely necessary that you see your ex, talk to your gf before you email your ex.  You must get her input, her thoughts, what she feels about the situation.
And if it comes to it, when you meet with your ex (with the permission of your gf), just tie up the loose ends that might still be hanging on your shoulders.  Then catch her up on life and what a wonderful person your gf is.
You do want to keep your distance from you ex (doesn\'t mean that you need to cut all contact with her).  While reintroducing your ex into your life, you need to pamper your gf and show her that nothing can come in between your relationship with your gf.