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Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: theomen on December 15, 2002, 08:03:36 PM
here\'s the history;

Last Tuesday I had the absolute hottest girl in my group of friends ask me if I had a girlfriend, and if I wanted one.  I told her that I was single and interested.  We went to the movies on Saturday, and it was alot of fun we got along really well etc...  She planned another outing for next weekend, Bowling (which I hate, but will bite my lip and go anyways).  When I dropped her off at her house she invited me in to watch a movie, and when we got in her room she gave me a pretty long hug (15-20 seconds).  She lives at home and her home thought it was a bit late to watch a movie, so we decided to watch the movie another time.  When she walked me out we talked a bit, and she told me how she has a bad-girl in her, and she gave me a hug when I left.

She called me today and we had a short conversation, and I\'ll see her tomarrow at College.  

Here\'s the problem;

I\'m usually used to girls that practically rape me on the first date, and this date was a pleasant change of pace.  However seeing as though this is the first date I\'ve ever been on in my adult years in which my body wasn\'t ravenged, I\'m wondering how serious she is about me.  Hopefully some of you out there have more experience with \'slower relationship\' and can help me out.
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: shockwaves on December 15, 2002, 08:06:44 PM
Ask Vapor, his relationships seem to move pretty slow :)

Seriously, I\'d like to help, but my experience is limited to high school relationships.  *shrug*
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: Jumpman on December 15, 2002, 08:11:21 PM
If she really told you she was a bad girl, then chances are she likes you and you should definitely go for it with her.

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Ask Vapor, his relationships seem to move pretty slow

Well, he would need to have been in a relationship to know how slow they move first. ;)
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: Kimahri on December 15, 2002, 08:57:43 PM
2 thoughts:

I think her "bad girl" comment may have meant that she wanted to be one of those girls that "raped" you on the first date but she may have just been too shy, or too scared of what you would think of her if she did "that" on the first date.

In this case the relationship may have the seriousnes of any of the other relationships you have had.

On the other hand, you said that you were previously friends before you went out so maybe she already has a feel for your personality and realizes that she wants a long relationship with you so she did not want to "rape" you on the first date but she still wanted you to know she likes to "have fun".

Also... what was your response to her "bad girl" comment?
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: theomen on December 15, 2002, 09:04:31 PM
I gave a vague comment, it was pretty much an "oh really?" responce.
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: SwifDi on December 15, 2002, 09:07:54 PM
Jumpman and Shockwaves can both eat my penis.
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: Living-In-Clip on December 15, 2002, 09:08:08 PM
She stated she\'s a bad girl? Did you offer to spank her? No? Then you missed a potenial lay!
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: Jumpman on December 15, 2002, 09:20:25 PM
I\'m a bad boy...

*nudge nudge*
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: Bobs_Hardware on December 15, 2002, 09:30:39 PM
I like Kimarhi\'s thoughts myself.

*threatens Jumpman with a stick*
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: Living-In-Clip on December 15, 2002, 09:31:26 PM
er...uhm..

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Vapor Snake:

I\'ll spank you, Jumpy!

[/b]

:D
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: TheGR81 on December 15, 2002, 10:00:46 PM
For the love of god ppl


does every thread have to turn out soo...umm.. gay?
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: Jumpman on December 15, 2002, 10:03:23 PM
*plays with TheGr81\'s penis*
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: TheGR81 on December 15, 2002, 10:34:56 PM
You dont touch the GR81\' s GR81!
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: SwifDi on December 15, 2002, 10:53:01 PM
[size=30]THIS THREAD IS TEH FOCKIN AWESOME[/size]
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: Rya on December 15, 2002, 11:58:01 PM
Interesting...this friend of your\'s must have some alternative motive.  Did she break up with someone just recently?  If that\'s the case, she\'s looking for revenge.  That\'s one theory that I have.
I find her "bad girl" statement odd.  She\'s from your group of friends and she just started to notice you?  And even if you two weren\'t friends before the first date is it normal for a girl to invite a guy into her room late at night and start hugging him?  I wouldn\'t know.
From what I can get in your little blurb, she\'s not looking for anything serious.  Maybe a friend with benefits type of relationship.
If you hope to start a serious relationship in this point in your life and with this girl, I suggest you talk to her about it since it\'s so soon in the dating scene.  Tell her what kind of relationship you\'d like to start, since you\'re just beginning your adult years.  You might want to tell her that you want to make the first years of your adulthood like a new beginning, a time to become mature.  Maybe you want to mention that you\'re not looking for a sexual relationship too, if that is the case.
Be forewarned: there are some girls who fear the idea of commitment just as much as guys.

Hope this helps.  Good luck!
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: luckee on December 15, 2002, 11:59:33 PM
f%ck her and get it over already. Go from there.
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: Bobs_Hardware on December 16, 2002, 12:00:22 AM
I like the sudden contrast from Rya\'s post... to Luckee\'s...

:D
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: theomen on December 16, 2002, 01:24:38 AM
She didn\'t exactly just suddenly start showing interest.  Since I\'ve known her she\'s always told me how she loves my eyes, and I\'ll catch her looking at me everyonce in awhile.  Before she approached me I had a feeling she was interested, but I assumed someone as hot as she would have had a BF, so I never hit on her.
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: Samwise on December 16, 2002, 09:43:46 AM
DO HER FOR TEH LOVE OF VAPOR
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: mjps21983 on December 16, 2002, 09:50:49 AM
It\'s simple just talk to her about everything, this should solve any problems
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: Kurt Angle on December 16, 2002, 11:03:40 AM
Post a pic of her on here!!!
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: Rick on December 16, 2002, 11:54:15 AM
Sounds interesting, but I reckon you are quids in mate, good luck to you! I\'m meeting my ex for a drink tomorrow night, which shall be interesting seeing as the last time I saw her, I was with her. I\'ll let you all know how it goes....
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: theomen on December 16, 2002, 01:35:20 PM
well today I showed up at the student union and my friend Joker (not the one from the boards) rushed me before I could see anything and drug me outside.  I guess the girl was their with another guy, while I wouldn\'t think too much of this normally as I have many female friends but there\'s nothing going on between us, but his reaction to it was a bit drastic.  I went in and she was sitting at a different table then the one my friends were at, so I gave her a wave and she did the same.....not good.

Once at the table, everyone was trying to calm me down and stop me from beating the guys ass, even though I wasn\'t angry at all, but I do have a temper that procedes me.  Now I don\'t know if the guy is just a friend or not, but I\'m going to treat it as more than just a friend, by the reactions of everybody.  She later came over to the table and talked to me a bit, but the convo was all superficial shit.  I\'m going to wait for a call tonight, but won\'t press it much more....  back to the fast hot chicks for me, if I don\'t have a date lined up by tomarrow yall can kick me in the nuts.

On another note, I\'ve relized that these boards are cursed.  if you post anything about relationships here, it\'ll go south...so be warned.
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: SwifDi on December 16, 2002, 02:31:47 PM
Amen to that shit brotha.... Never, ever, under any circumstances post shit here.
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: shockwaves on December 16, 2002, 03:08:27 PM
Next time I start going out with a girl, I\'m posting it here, just to try and break the trend :)
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: theomen on December 16, 2002, 03:11:09 PM
pick a lonely ugly chick, that way it increases your chances.
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: shockwaves on December 16, 2002, 03:15:16 PM
Yeah, but then I lose either way.
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: theomen on December 16, 2002, 03:18:04 PM
WORD
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: Rick on December 16, 2002, 04:22:02 PM
Me too!
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: on December 16, 2002, 04:35:58 PM
A girl and omen? [size=10]BAHAHAHAHAH  OMFG ROFLMFAO
FUNNY FHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAAH!!!!!!!!!1111[/size]

*ahem* Sorry, couldn\'t miss that for the world.
Title: Re: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: The Stapler on December 16, 2002, 07:40:49 PM
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Originally posted by theomen
(beware, this is a relationship help thread)


"Vapor Snakes need not apply"
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: luckee on December 16, 2002, 07:55:28 PM
You wanted to fight a guy you dont even know over a girl ou arent even with????

Slickkkkkkkkkkk
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: SwifDi on December 16, 2002, 08:02:50 PM
Luckee = King of making you feel stupid

Oh yeah, things with that chick are going pretty good... I didn\'t want to update my thread cuz I don\'t want to jinx anything.

*knocks on wood*
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: luckee on December 16, 2002, 08:26:32 PM
You mean you are being manipulated still?

Also, I cant "make" you feel stupid, either you are or feel like it or you arent.
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: theomen on December 16, 2002, 08:35:43 PM
luckee I said I wasn\'t mad, learn to read it\'s FUNdamental
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: luckee on December 16, 2002, 08:47:12 PM
I can read just fine. I was trying to convey that I wasnt buying the "not angry" bit.
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: theomen on December 16, 2002, 08:52:04 PM
I wasn\'t angry in the least, if I were I would have followed through with my feeling of anger and jumped the guy.  But there wasn\'t anything between me and the chick, and the guy actually new her before I did, so who knows...I may be the \'other guy\'.  either way, nothing warrenting an ass whoop\'n.
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: The Stapler on December 16, 2002, 09:51:26 PM
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Originally posted by Vapor Snake
*knocks on wood*


Masturbation is not always a good sign.
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: kopking on December 17, 2002, 12:26:41 PM
man i do just what your doing, let her know ur intrested, but dont push nothing.... he could just be a mate, man if ur not all that bothered dont worry to much, just wait a bit b4 you go off with another girl, incase she is still intrested....


have you even kissed this girl??? i also think the "ima bad girl" bit was like telling you to do something
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: theomen on December 17, 2002, 12:42:14 PM
well today I talked to her, and she let me know that I was one of two guys she was interested in (lucky me).  I let her know that I don\'t compete for chicks, and she still wanted to do something after finals, but I just left the place.  And to my surprise, before I got to the parking lot I had a new phone number from a cute little brunette :)  I guess I\'m just more outgoing when I\'m mildly annoyed.
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: kopking on December 17, 2002, 12:48:03 PM
yea that sucks to be like i like u 2 guys, if she cant pick, it aint worth it
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: Kurt Angle on December 17, 2002, 01:47:01 PM
Just don\'t do the 3 in a bed thing, unless it\'s with 2 girls of course.;)
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: theomen on December 17, 2002, 06:18:29 PM
now if she were like "it\'s down to be between you and this other girl" my reply would have been different :D
Title: TheOmen needs your help (beware, this is a relationship help thread)
Post by: Rya on December 19, 2002, 12:22:04 AM
Boys this confused about girls and relations with girls should just lock themselves in their room and play video games until someone else says they\'re ready for a relationship.  =P