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Non Gaming Discussions => Off-Topic => Topic started by: QuDDus on October 30, 2003, 10:57:19 AM
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Me and my long time girlfriend just broke up. I can\'t even really say why we broke up. It seems like no matter what it was it just was not worth calling it quits.
I mean she is gonig through losing her brother and job and dealing with family. I think at times I did not handle things like I should but I don\'t think its worth losing each other over.
She is having a hard time coping with things now. I called her and left her a message to try and make peace and tell her how I really feel and work things out.
If we do get back together I just don\'t know will it ever be the same. I mean I never gotten back with any I have broken up with. I love my girl and want to be back with her I am just a little unsure on how things would be.
Relationships are tough
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don\'t ask these chronic masturbating loosers for relationship help. Their deffinition of a good relationship is a retarded cousin who lets them feel her up on Thanksgiving day.
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Relationships are for people who need to depend on someone.
Losers.
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Mistake I went through and learned from.
Had a gal who went through some major hardships. Lost her brother, moved away from me, etc...
When we broke up, I tried my hardest to get her back. I learned a lot from that. I probably turned her away far more by pursueing her than if I would have just given her space.
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I hope you find that person that makes you feel a way you never have LIC.
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I doubt it. I really don\'t have a desire to have a woman around. All I see them fit for, is a good one night stand. Does that count? And even then, I can do something close to that with my right hand.
They\'re baby machines and they take half of everything you own at some point in your life.
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That\'s a cynical way to look at things, though sadly, partially true.
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is there any reason why it would be different??? hve any of u been with someone else??? how long you been split up??
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Wow, save some of that bitterness for your 40s, L-I-C. :)
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Come on. Can anyone not agree that women are use men and take almost everything? They have one sole purpose, to have babies. And then, after that, take half of what you own - and make you pay and beg to see your own frickin\' kid.
It use to be a man\'s world, now\'a\'days, everything sways for the woman. Laws are set up to protect women to the most obsene amount. Why should a man have to a pay a woman, after he divorces her? Come on ! I can understand child support, but alimony is bullshit. And why is it , ninety percent of the time, the woman gets the kid? It\'s more bullshit.
Why is it they make TV movie\'s of women killing their husbands - portraying them as hero\'s? F**kin\' Lifetime movie channel. F**k women\'s liberation. F**k their rights. F**k the cross-genderism, they have started. A man no longer knows his place and the home and the woman doesn\'t know her\'s.
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LIC, are your parents divorced?
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Actually, yeah - but they live together happily. I\'ve always had this opinion about women.
And before anyone says I have deep-seeded issues with my mother. I am actually extremely close to my mother.
I just think women have to many rights. Then again, I think the best woman is bare-footed and pregnant, while cooking a meal at home.
The rest, well, are worthless. \'Cept hookers, at least you know the price up front with hookers.
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not just his parents, but his grandparents too.... j/k
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Originally posted by kopking
is there any reason why it would be different??? hve any of u been with someone else??? how long you been split up??
No I haven\'t been with anyone else and we have been broke for 48hrs now. I think it would be different because of the split and I feel she went about it all wrong.
I called her and left her a message and she hasen\'t called me yet. I mean I am not going to call her again I mean why should I? I guess I am to proud to call her again. So unless she calls me back I won\'t call her again. I have to much pride to call a girl back twice.
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I think you have to accept that right now, she is probably goin\' down on some other dude\'s schlong and not even thinking about you.
Honestly, it\'s better this way. At least she wasn\'t knocked up.
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women usualy get the kids because they are the better parent.... and im allowed to generalize here, because you did it first :P
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You need to have a good relationship with a woman, and then you might realize what you\'re missing, LIC. Maybe you\'ve been shit on by women before, but they\'re not all like that. Your hostile attitude is not going to endear you to them either.
Ah well whatever. Probably nothing I say is going to change your mind. If you feel like hearing any more from someone who has more experience than you, let me know.
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Heh, I\'m not in a relationship but I gotta disagree LiC. You make a lot of valid points, but I just don\'t think that relationships are hell. Many are, but many aren\'t. You can\'t just generalize and say "don\'t get married!". :)
Nice way to put your opinion, BTW. Bitterness is always funny.
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Originally posted by kopking
not just his parents, but his grandparents too.... j/k
hahahahahaha that was hilarious. :laughing:
Anyway, I totally disagree with LIC... If anything, having a significant other to enjoy life with can\'t beat anything. Sorry but I don\'t think playing games and buying dvds all my life will make me happy. As for divorce blah blah, that\'s not always the case, if anything, getting into a relationship always has it\'s risks, there\'s no such thing as a perfect one.
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Relationships do suck. The longer they go on, the tougher they get, and the harder it is to hold together (unless you\'re married). It\'s a constant emotional rollercoaster ride and you don\'t know if you\'re gonna get a good or bad day. I\'ve been with my gf for pushin on 10 months, and it\'s been such a freakin journey... At the moment we\'re all cool and happy and in love, but who knows when we\'ll be at each other\'s throats the next day...
Love can be a best friend, or a worst enemy.
But in the grand perspective of things, I\'m with SER. There is nothing better than just wrapping your arms around a chick and just having her close to you. Just takin her out to see a movie, or just sitting together and watching TV is such a humbling and "feel-good" element in one\'s life. Even when things are rough, it\'s much better than before when I was alone and only hung out with my friends and stuff. So basically, I can\'t wait till the day I get married and have that life long companion to share my life with. Sounds much better than being a hermit.
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Relationships are for people who need to depend on someone.
Losers.
Wrong- Relationships are for the people who have better things to do than watch cartoons, masturbate and live with their parents until they are kicked out.
You have honestly never been in love LIC, and when you are (If even possible), you will know it is an unstoppable feeling.
but who knows when we\'ll be at each other\'s throats the next day...
Hey dont worry, everyone has been down her throat. ;)
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Har har...
Anyways, I think LIC\'s gone through a few "Ugh... I\'m pissed" threads of his own that he has yet to share. :)
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Originally posted by QuDDus
If we do get back together I just don\'t know will it ever be the same.
In my opinion, you two are done. You can prolong it and follow your heart and try to make it work, but it\'s been my experience that it won\'t last very long.
Either way, good luck. Right now you seem a little worked up. I\'d try to cool off and focus. Get a grip so you can try to make the best decision.
-Eik
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Originally posted by SwifDi
Relationships do suck. The longer they go on, the tougher they get, and the harder it is to hold together (unless you\'re married). It\'s a constant emotional rollercoaster ride and you don\'t know if you\'re gonna get a good or bad day.
Why do you think it\'s easier to hold together if you are married? It\'s just as hard and takes just as much work.
You put that ring on, nothing magical happens that bonds you together. Nothing has changed. Only in the eyes of the government and taxation...
You still have to work hard or you will begin to feel like you are wasting your life with a chick you don\'t care for. And that is pretty sucky.
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Oh BTW: Video time to change your queer quote of the week.
*hint hint* ;)
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I\'ll put this in jest.
Women are worthless creatures. Who do nothing but use their vagina to manulipate the male gender.
Thank you.
I was hopin\' that I was not in the minority on this one, but I guess I am.
-shrugs-
Have you all never noticed the women have a zillion male friends? And when they dump you, often within one week they are out with one of them? That\'s because women always have the \'back-up f**k\'. They make male friends ahead of time, that way when they dump you, they can go suck some other dude off. Qud , I would bet the same just happened to you.
And this whole nonsense that women are the better parents. Give me a break. A man can be just as good a parent as the mother.
I still say women was better when they was un-opinionated, stayed at home and done nothing, \'cept cook, clean and put out. Now\'a\'days, they have opinions, voice them all to often, gain weight once you marry them, take half of your stuff.
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:laughing:
This isnt the 1930\'s any more.
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Originally posted by videoholic
Why do you think it\'s easier to hold together if you are married? It\'s just as hard and takes just as much work.
You put that ring on, nothing magical happens that bonds you together. Nothing has changed. Only in the eyes of the government and taxation...
You still have to work hard or you will begin to feel like you are wasting your life with a chick you don\'t care for. And that is pretty sucky.
Obviously I don\'t know yet, but from what I see, by marriage you\'re basically commiting to one another forever. Therefore when times are rough, you\'re LAST option is to get a divorce, and there\'s a lot more pressure on splitting up because it\'s difficult to end a marriage. With just dating someone, it\'s just like practice for getting marriage. You can split up because there\'s less at risk.
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Originally posted by Living-In-Clip
Have you all never noticed the women have a zillion male friends? And when they dump you, often within one week they are out with one of them? That\'s because women always have the \'back-up f**k\'. They make male friends ahead of time, that way when they dump you, they can go suck some other dude off. Qud , I would bet the same just happened to you.
Those are the girls you\'re going after though. You\'re just lookin for the "quick f**k" and finding these type of girls... If you want a quality woman, you have to adjust your priorities accordingly.
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Originally posted by Spudz
:laughing:
This isnt the 1930\'s any more.
Sadly, you\'re right. The 1930\'s was a much better time for relationships.
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Relationships have been the same.
Man depends on woman, Woman depends on man.
If women are so useless, why arent we asexual? You said yourself the only use they have is to bear children.
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Originally posted by Living-In-Clip
Women are worthless creatures. Who do nothing but use their vagina to manulipate the male gender.
Only the weak can be manipulated. But I admit women have their bad qualities, and so do men. The world would come to a screeching halt without balance. Women need men, and men need women. I\'m not just talking about relationships and sex, either. So we all just better learn to fukcing live with each other.
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Going back to QuDDus\' original problem...
I\'m so sorry that your gf broke up with you. That\'s really hard. I understand you\'re not ready to let her go. Maybe she isn\'t either.
However, since she is going through some tough times, she needs to back up and really think about what she wants to do to get herself out of the rut. Like someone said earlier, give her the space you need. She probably doesn\'t want to worry about balancing the relationship with you and all the other stuff she\'s going through.
Here are my suggestions:
-Call her back. Yes, you left her a message and yes you\'re too proud to call her a second time. Just this once, swallow that pride and call her back. Leave a message saying that you understand that she needs her space and that you\'re just a phone call away should she ever need you (even just to talk). Tell her that you\'ll be thinking about her and hoping that she\'ll get through what she needs to get through OK. Then you can leave it up to her to call you back and it lets her know that you still care.
-With the time that you\'ll have free, you\'ll most likely be thinking about her a lot. I sense from how you spoke of her, she\'s practically all you think about. Go out to the bookstore and buy yourself a journal; something that looks like you and her would agree on in appearance (ie you probably wouldn\'t want floral on the cover, she probably wouldn\'t want Superman on the cover).
Whenever you feel like talking to her, something you want to tell her, write it all down in that journal. Then when she\'s ready to get back together, you can give the book to her. Or if you decide that you\'re tired of waiting (perish the thought!), you can give that to her, as a symbol of finally letting yourself break up with her.
I hope what I had to say helped. PM me if you want some more suggestions. :) Good luck.
LIC I was about to argue everything you said, but decided that it would be pointless. Here\'s what you need:
HUG
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i guess your right rya. Thats all I can do. I guess I\'ll just have to move on I mean there are other fish in the sea. I just don\'t think I want one anytime soon. I will just stay in college and try and focus on graduating and getting me a great job.
I think I will be over this soon, but I still don\'t think I could start any realationship with anybody anytime soon, because I just don\'t see any reason too.
This is not the first hard relationship I have went through and I guess I am just getting fed up with the women seeming to always hurt me in some way. I think this is the reason men turn into dogs.
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Damnit! I forgot we have women posters.
I\'ve been caught!
ARGHHHH!
<-runs & hides!
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How come no one gave me good, solid advice when I was having girl problems? All I got was put-downs, and a picture of Boris Yeltsin holding a pink dildo.
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Originally posted by SwifDi
How come no one gave me good, solid advice when I was having girl problems? All I got was put-downs, and a picture of Boris Yeltsin holding a pink dildo.
:laughing:
That\'s because we all secretly (?) hate you. ;)
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Originally posted by QuDDus
i guess your right rya. Thats all I can do. I guess I\'ll just have to move on I mean there are other fish in the sea. I just don\'t think I want one anytime soon. I will just stay in college and try and focus on graduating and getting me a great job.
I never said to give up. My entire post is basically saying, give her some time and space. You never know if she\'ll go back to you. Ryu and I broke up once as well. We got back together (not right away, mind you). Keep hoping. :)
How come no one gave me good, solid advice when I was having girl problems? All I got was put-downs, and a picture of Boris Yeltsin holding a pink dildo.
When was the last time you asked for serious advice on girl problems? I would have noticed that thread or Ryu would have noticed it and I would have posted something if it were meaningful. ;)
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Actually, I did notice it, but a relationship with problems without even being a year old would be pointless to comment on. Not to mention, no matter what, each and every person here, especially Vapor, will do what they want when they want.
Despite that, wouldn\'t it be nice to be someone else\'s conscience for a day? :)
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Knowing your better half is somewhere out there is a nice thought but I must say relationships are difficult. Things can\'t be forced and everthing mends with time.
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Well rya I say forget it. I mean there are way more beautiful women out here for me to be trying to stay with this one. I could see if I done something wrong then I would see how she could be acting this way.
But I did nothing wrong so hay forget it. She got too much baggage anyway. I got everything going for me it\'s her lost.
I\'m movin on.
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Sounds like she just needs time and wants to be alone with her family for a while. Give it a month or two and who knows? Maybe she\'ll be calling you to try and patch things up.
With all that said, and as tough as it is to give up on a girl you have deep feelings for... there are lots of good women out there. If this isn\'t the "one", keep looking and you\'ll eventually find her.
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I agree with the moving on. Pining for someone should be limited to 2 months. After that, forget it, and if you two are gonna get back together, fate will take care of it.
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Well I met another women. And we talked for a while I am suppose to call her back latter on tonite.
I just don\'t know if I could trust women though. She seems nice and everything and really was opened minded. I don\'t wanna rush things. She\'s hot I am just going to keep meeting as many women as I can.
I just hope I get better and learn to trust again.
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Originally posted by QuDDus
She\'s hot I am just going to keep meeting as many women as I can.
I just hope I get better and learn to trust again.
These two sentences together don\'t make me feel too sorry for you. :laughing:
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Originally posted by Sara
These two sentences together don\'t make me feel too sorry for you. :laughing:
I am just trying to move on. I had my heart broken I am just trying to heal it.
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If you wear golf shoes, you might have to heal it after you heel it.
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Originally posted by Coredweller
If you wear wear golf shoes, you might have to heal it after you heel it.
Smart azz........
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*starts singing*
Cry me a River, for Qud.
:rolleyes:
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Originally posted by SwifDi
How come no one gave me good, solid advice when I was having girl problems? All I got was put-downs, and a picture of Boris Yeltsin holding a pink dildo.
Because I gave you all the advice you needed and you still didn\'t use it.
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Well, I\'m sorry to hear that. I hope you two still remain good friends.
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Well we are talking now. I don\'t know if we will patch things up, but we are talking on a regular basis now.
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I hope you two work it out and if you two don\'t, I\'m sure you\'ll find someone else and someone better. There are plenty of women out there, you just need to get your hands on some.
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plenty of women out there, you just need to get your hands on some.
oops typo corrector;
plenty of women out there, you just need to get your hands in some.
dont mention it.