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Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: THX on February 08, 2005, 01:17:56 PM
How\'s it working out for you, or what do you think?  My friends are slowly getting married off.

I get a call yesterday from one friend who says they are now separated (probably temporarily).  Another friend moved off to Kansas because his wife\'s family lives there and she doesn\'t want to move.  Another friend has a good marriage, and are in the area BUT the dood can never hang out lol.  We used to be work out buddies but now it\'s hard to get a return call from him. :\\

Well just curious.  Ideally I\'d like to stay a bachelor until I dunno, late 20s or even somewhere in the 30s.  How bout y\'all?
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: theomen on February 08, 2005, 01:24:41 PM
ask me this a year ago and I would have said eith 35+ or never, but I\'ve since really changed the person I am.  I\'m not the player I used to be, and would love to get married if I met the right person.  However, I think that you should be financially stable before you concider marriage, age is less of an issue than stability to me.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Paul2 on February 08, 2005, 02:28:54 PM
Maybe Samwise can lend a helping hand for you there theomen.  J/k.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Black Samurai on February 08, 2005, 03:07:53 PM
Late 20\'s
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Evi on February 08, 2005, 03:27:42 PM
Whenever the hell you can afford it, and if you both REALLY enjoy being with each other.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Cerberus on February 08, 2005, 03:31:08 PM
I have no real desire to get married and I\'m 31. When my parents were my age, they were married 2 years, and were already well on their way to making me.

These times, they are a changin\', less and less people from the UK are tying the knot each year.

And anyway, if there is true love between 2 people, why should they need a piece of paper to prove it?

So swiffy, the answer is no.

:D
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Halberto on February 08, 2005, 04:20:55 PM
Marriage is going to fade away in the future. More than half of all marriages end in divorce.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Joker on February 08, 2005, 04:35:03 PM
thats cause people mistake loathing for love


and I say get married when you can afford too.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: GmanJoe on February 08, 2005, 04:53:21 PM
I\'ve been married 10 months. It\'s been great so far. Then again, we\'ve been going steady for 10 years before we got married. No, we never lived together until now, of course.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: clips on February 08, 2005, 07:03:30 PM
in the words of the great Chris Rock..."married and BORED or single and LONELY!"  :D  j/k...i\'ve been married over two yrs now...this is my 2nd one...i can truly say wait till you\'re finacially stable as in my first marriage i was just 19!...after my first marriage i was just dating alot of women, or should i say f**king alot of women...but believe or not that gets old after awhile and soon you just wanna chill with someone special...

i\'m not sayin you\'re gonna want to get married, you\'re just gonna want to have a gf..but you can\'t go lookin for it..you gotta let it come to you...that\'s how i found my current wifey..s**t she\'s the best thing that ever happened for me...but if i had to choose i\'d say late 20\'s early 30\'s..use the 20\'s to have fun and party and decide where you want to go in life, by 28 or 29 you should definitely know where you want to be...
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: videoholic on February 08, 2005, 07:08:23 PM
I was 26.  Done with the whole club thing.  Ready to have a kid.  Done.

It was weird.  I use to hate being around kids.  Then just all the sudden like a light switch went off and I was ready.  You just know.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: theomen on February 08, 2005, 07:16:01 PM
the male biological clock
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Luke on February 08, 2005, 08:00:56 PM
I\'ll be 27 in a month and am planning on asking my lady to marry me very soon... Got the ring and everything.




I\'m just kinda being a wuss about it,
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: theomen on February 08, 2005, 08:01:37 PM
pussy
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Joker on February 08, 2005, 08:10:46 PM
just curious, how many of you were wanted?

as in planned for

me = accident
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Luke on February 08, 2005, 08:35:09 PM
I\'m adopted so... Obviously accident.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: THX on February 08, 2005, 09:03:42 PM
Funny story:

My parents are really conservative Christians that push abstinence.  I was born in 1979.  I always thought my folks planned me well in advance after marriage being how strict my military father is and everything.  Well when I was in high school I found an old wedding album that said their names, married September 1980.  I was a lil shocked at first but can sorta see them getting married because of me.  Looks like my conservative dad couldn\'t keep it in his pants.

Oh and at age 10 I found out I had an older half brother that didn\'t come from my current father.  My mom just put me on the phone with him and said, "Here, talk to your brother."  wtf
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Evi on February 08, 2005, 09:49:59 PM
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Originally posted by Joker
just curious, how many of you were wanted?

as in planned for

me = accident
Older brother = accident

Me = Planned
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Joker on February 08, 2005, 11:47:25 PM
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Originally posted by THX
Funny story:

My parents are really conservative Christians that push abstinence.  I was born in 1979.  I always thought my folks planned me well in advance after marriage being how strict my military father is and everything.  Well when I was in high school I found an old wedding album that said their names, married September 1980.  I was a lil shocked at first but can sorta see them getting married because of me.  Looks like my conservative dad couldn\'t keep it in his pants.

Oh and at age 10 I found out I had an older half brother that didn\'t come from my current father.  My mom just put me on the phone with him and said, "Here, talk to your brother."  wtf


lol that is funny

i\'ve got siblings too that i\'ve never met, there from my father but i\'ve never even seen a picture of him so I don\'t know what he looks like which is sorta a piss off cause i\'m more curious about what my brother and sister look like.

My mom had me at 16 so ya...I was very much an accident.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: videoholic on February 09, 2005, 04:44:29 AM
Quote
Originally posted by Joker
just curious, how many of you were wanted?

as in planned for

me = accident


Quote
Originally posted by THX
Funny story:

My parents are really conservative Christians that push abstinence.  I was born in 1979.  I always thought my folks planned me well in advance after marriage being how strict my military father is and everything.  Well when I was in high school I found an old wedding album that said their names, married September 1980.  I was a lil shocked at first but can sorta see them getting married because of me.  Looks like my conservative dad couldn\'t keep it in his pants.

Oh and at age 10 I found out I had an older half brother that didn\'t come from my current father.  My mom just put me on the phone with him and said, "Here, talk to your brother."  wtf


HOLY FREAKING COW THX!!!

Our lives are so similar.


I was born October 1970.  I always thought I was a honeymoon baby because my parents were married on January of 11th of the same year.

A few years ago I was scanning old photos and there was a photo of a baby with my mother\'s maiden name.  A picture I always thought was me, but why in the hell was my mom\'s maiden name on there?

I asked my mom via email about it and sent her the pic.

She sent me a VERY LONG drawn out letter about how she always wanted to tell me, but never knew how blah blah blah.

Apparently they were married in January of 1971, not 1970 and I was there.  

They actually celebrated their 25th anniversary with me a year earlier than they were supposed to.  

Sad really, but I\'ll tell you my parents stayed together through some rough times.

So they have that going for them.

Which is nice.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: clips on February 09, 2005, 04:52:09 AM
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Originally posted by videoholic
HOLY FREAKING COW THX!!!

Our lives are so similar.


I was born October 1970.  I always thought I was a honeymoon baby because my parents were married on January of 11th of the same year.

A few years ago I was scanning old photos and there was a photo of a baby with my mother\'s maiden name.  A picture I always thought was me, but why in the hell was my mom\'s maiden name on there?

I asked my mom via email about it and sent her the pic.

She sent me a VERY LONG drawn out letter about how she always wanted to tell me, but never knew how blah blah blah.

Apparently they were married in January of 1971, not 1970 and I was there.  

They actually celebrated their 25th anniversary with me a year earlier than they were supposed to.  

Sad really, but I\'ll tell you my parents stayed together through some rough times.

So they have that going for them.

Which is nice.


damn Vid i was born oct 3 1970...are you a libra?  <----damn that sounded gay...you have so many b-days a year, but now we finally find out your true birth date :p
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Samwise on February 09, 2005, 04:57:43 AM
Is it really such a big deal anymore? I mean, does anyone care if there parents had you before or after their marriage? I know I wouldn\'t.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: SwifDi on February 09, 2005, 08:15:07 AM
I plan on waiting at least one year when I\'m out of college.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Cyrus on February 09, 2005, 09:14:53 AM
Been married for 11 year nad with my wife I dunno 15 or 16. Have had some great sex over thos years and wouldnt have had it anyother way. Kids are cool too. If i could just get my wife to get a girlfriend I would stay married forever.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: CHIZZY on February 09, 2005, 02:42:33 PM
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Originally posted by SwifDi
I plan on waiting at least one year when I\'m out of college.


wtf?!?

dude, that\'s when you gotta bang anything that moves! for like 10 years, until you\'re an alcoholic, then find some bar slut to marry.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: QuDDus on February 09, 2005, 03:00:18 PM
I don\'t plan on having kids or marriage til I am at least 30. I mean why waist away my 20\'s with some chick. All these losers talking about love an marriage and are in there 20\'s. Ha!!!!!!!!!!!!
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: SwifDi on February 09, 2005, 03:19:38 PM
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Originally posted by CHIZZY
wtf?!?

dude, that\'s when you gotta bang anything that moves! for like 10 years, until you\'re an alcoholic, then find some bar slut to marry.


As much as I really want to do that... I can be a bitch for relationships, so my gut is telling me about 2 or 3 years out of college (so about 23 or 24) and I\'ll be married. I\'m going to try and do the crazy random sex gig, but I\'m not gonna let anything real good pass me by.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Cyrus on February 09, 2005, 03:53:49 PM
swif are you sure your not a chick posting as an unatrictive redhead little boy?
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: DeAnna on February 09, 2005, 04:11:47 PM
unatrictive?????


is there a spellcheck feature anywhere?? ;)
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Post by: Cyrus on February 09, 2005, 04:23:13 PM
no theres not a quite frankly if there was one I wouldnt use it. The fact of the matter is I barely care the words are even close to being spelled correctly I like to post here but I dont have the time to give a rats ass about the anal retentive retards who think my grammer should be that as if I was writing an essay.

You and Bozo should think about mateing.....
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Titan on February 09, 2005, 04:28:53 PM
I kind of wish I was 17 again. I was old enough to have my license but didn\'t have to worry about statutary rape and things like that. I also enjoyed hooking up with girls and stuff like that. Now I\'m 18, growing up, have a girlfriend and going through a change. I do like this change since I really like the girl I\'m with and in NJ, you can have more than one person in your car :) I can\'t wait to go off to college but I\'m afraid I\'m gonna lose contact with all my high school buddies. A lot of them, I\'ve been with since elementary school. I dont\' want to lose them and that\'s why I want to stay 17 forever. But, things gotta change. I have all their screen names and a lot of their email addresses.

I can\'t wait for college. That is gonna be fun to be with new people and stuff. I can\'t wait to get married but I probably will be in my mid 20s before I do. I want to make sure the person I want to marry is the one so I\'m not one of the 50% that end in divorce.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Eiksirf on February 09, 2005, 05:30:45 PM
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Originally posted by THX
Funny story:

My parents are really conservative Christians that push abstinence.  I was born in 1979.  I always thought my folks planned me well in advance after marriage being how strict my military father is and everything.  Well when I was in high school I found an old wedding album that said their names, married September 1980.


So they had you and then quickly became vocal advocates for abstinence?

Eh.

Me, I\'ll get married to the next girl that comes along, if she\'s right for me. I\'m ready to get tied down. A couple years of dating is the prerequisite though, I think.

-Dan
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: DeAnna on February 09, 2005, 09:00:45 PM
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Originally posted by Titan
I want to make sure the person I want to marry is the one so I\'m not one of the 50% that end in divorce.


Amen....(thats all I need to say)
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Living-In-Clip on February 11, 2005, 07:29:52 AM
Never.
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
Eh?!?!? Think about it guy\'s. Just move in with them, that way when it goes downhill, you pack your stuff and leave. No messy divorce.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: GigaShadow on February 11, 2005, 08:01:34 AM
Marriage #1:  21 and an accident.  Had to drop out of school and get a crappy job.  Lived 5 minutes from my super controlling in laws... I think its pretty evident that the marriage wouldn\'t last and it didn\'t.  Divorced at 24 with 1 son.  

Marriage #2:  32 and planned.  Had graduated college, but still hadn\'t started my "career".  Finally got a good job, asked my wife to marry me and we moved from DFW to Georgia and were married shortly after we moved.  Eleven months later we had my 2nd son.  This marriage is working out much better than my first - I am much more mature and willing to take responsibility as opposed to when I was in my early 20\'s when I felt I was robbed out of so many things.  I have a good job so money is not as big of a deal as it was in my first marriage.  Instead of despair (which is all we saw in my first marriage) we have hope and we have goals we want to achieve.  Added bonus - inlaws live 800 miles away!

No marriage is perfect and we do have our arguements - getting through the first 2 years was what I considered the most difficult (life adjustments), but things have settled down and I am honestly enjoying it.  Looking at my ex wife now and looking at my current wife - I have to just shake my head.  My wife has her faults, but she is 10 times the woman and mother my first wife was.  I also look at my first son who is quite frankly lacking discipline in any shape or form and my first wife\'s answer to this is "roleplaying" (see the movie What About Bob for an example) and medication!?!?  She hasn\'t grown or changed significantly since we were married, where I have grown from an irresponsible, thought I knew it all kid - into a responsible know I know it all adult. ;)
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: GigaShadow on February 11, 2005, 08:07:28 AM
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Originally posted by Living-In-Clip
Never.
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
Eh?!?!? Think about it guy\'s. Just move in with them, that way when it goes downhill, you pack your stuff and leave. No messy divorce.


So you have a cow eh? ;)  j/k

Also do you not know that if you live with your girlfriend long enough - you have a common law marriage in most states.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: ooseven on February 11, 2005, 10:26:00 AM
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Originally posted by EviscerationX
Older brother = accident

Me = Planned





Yeah THATS what they tell you ;)
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: fre4d4 on February 11, 2005, 07:02:43 PM
Marriage is awesome, i am on my third time, but i am not the easiest person to live with.I think thats why it took me so long, to find the woman of my dreams, she is my best friend and stands right beside me in good or bad.Turns out she was my highschool sweetheart, just never realized it till years later.Now we are inseparable.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: videoholic on February 11, 2005, 09:02:03 PM
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Originally posted by Living-In-Clip
Never.
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
Eh?!?!? Think about it guy\'s. Just move in with them, that way when it goes downhill, you pack your stuff and leave. No messy divorce.


Just wait until you need to buy shit for the house/apt.  And having to split the bills, blah blah blah.

Dude is barely a rookie and already preachin\'
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: fre4d4 on February 12, 2005, 01:21:21 PM
So, what are you sayin man ?
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Titan on February 12, 2005, 06:11:54 PM
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Originally posted by ooseven
Yeah THATS what they tell you ;)


I actually think that Evis got the order wrong ;)
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Living-In-Clip on February 13, 2005, 12:28:43 AM
I was wanted.  My Parents actually married, because my mother wanted to have a child.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Lord Nicon on February 13, 2005, 04:30:54 PM
Probably going to get married in my late 20\'s. Kids in very early 30s and thats about that. At least i think thats a healthy time to do it.

As for planned and unplanned siblings:

Older sister - unplanned (i think)
Me - Planned
Younger sister - unplanned

Sounds like i made it this way but thats just what i was told.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Evi on February 13, 2005, 04:42:31 PM
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Originally posted by ooseven
Yeah THATS what they tell you ;)
:crying: They\'re probably lying.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: DeAnna on February 13, 2005, 05:44:31 PM
Me- probably an accident
Lil\' Brother- more than probably an accident
Lil\' Sister- planned

And I don\'t know whats up but my mom has been married like 5 times and shes engaged now
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Evi on February 13, 2005, 07:44:58 PM
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And I don\'t know whats up but my mom has been married like 5 times and shes engaged now
That\'s called marrying without thinking first.
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Lord Nicon on February 13, 2005, 09:17:02 PM
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Originally posted by EviscerationX
That\'s called marrying without thinking first.

That and or deperation
Title: Your thoughts on marriage?
Post by: Titan on February 14, 2005, 05:50:14 PM
I\'m not sure if I was planned or not or if my bro was planned or not. My mom never said anything so I don\'t know.

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Originally posted by fre4d4
Marriage is awesome, i am on my third time, but i am not the easiest person to live with.I think thats why it took me so long, to find the woman of my dreams, she is my best friend and stands right beside me in good or bad.Turns out she was my highschool sweetheart, just never realized it till years later.Now we are inseparable.


That\'s probably gonna happen to me. I\'m probably gonna marry a chick I know in high school.