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Non Gaming Discussions => Off-Topic => Topic started by: §ôµÏG®ïñD on June 05, 2005, 10:45:01 AM
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It\'s like this, I made plans with one of my mates Mic saturday night, go around his place and just do whatever.. So i\'m at his place just lazying around not doing anything but drinking some good old jimbeam. When he gets a call from a chick, asking him to get some drugs for her. So we go down to 2 other mates place in Mics car to find they\'re not home, but theres shit loads of other people hanging around the house.
All but 1 of them leave. So theres myself, mic and brad left. Mic and I are just generally chatting about what we could do and it continues for about 5 - 10 mins with no resolve. Mic gets a call from tony and tony asks Mic if he wants to go crusing in his ute (goggle it if u\'ve never heard of it) Mic says yes straight away, hangs up his mobile (cell) phone and turns to me and asks if he could take me home before catching up with tony.
Now basically i\'ve got no choice because mic has just made new plans and i\'m basically stuck at these peoples house that aren\'t home. So i say yes and he takes me home and fucks off to meet tony.. At 11pm at night, basically screwing my night because everyone else had already made plans.
I pretty much got screwed over and felt pretty shitty about this. Its happened before, do u think i should.........
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You should sleep with him.
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Being real friends is give & take, 50/50.
If you put up with too much cr@p from him than he from you, then all balance is lost.
I can\'t judge the history of your friendship with Mic so that pretty much leaves it up to you to estimate the balance.
I myself am one of those guys irl to not care about such ppl if they \'neglect\' me like that.
That RATM song put it well about the subject : "Your friendship is a fog, that dissappears when the wind redirects"
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tell him to fuck off, I would. If you let them take you for a ride once, they\'ll probably try to do it more and more.
Real friends don\'t do that shit to each other, mine don\'t do it to me, and if they did, they wouldn\'t be my friends in the first place.
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I\'d go without him for a while.
But that\'s me. I only keep a small group of friends. Yesterday one of em dicked me over. Left me and my parents and my grandmother stranded on the highway with two flat tires. Said she was too tired to come give us a ride. See how quick I jump to hang out with her again.
-Dan
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It\'s hard to find true friends. My best friends are the same guys I stuck with since high school, but even they can be real faggots sometimes.
I say next time mic wants to hang out with you ask him jokingly if he\'ll leave you hanging again. Subtly let him know you thought that was messed up. If he senses something was wrong hopefully he\'ll try to avoid it again in the future.
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[mm] offer him some woodchips[/mm]
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Well, I spoke to michael through msn.. Lets just say i learnt a few things.
heres the interesting drama.
[10:04] michael: hello
From my auto away -
[10:04] *** Auto-response sent to michael I haven\'t sent you any messages michael. Try not screwing me over next time we make plans. Despite what you think, it was a total bullshit thing you did saturday night. I\'ll just have to remember next time we\'re doing something and someone calls me, to basically fuck you off if i\'m bored. Ohh, and don\'t reply saying you asked what i wanted to do or if it was ok, you made plans with tony, hanged up the phone and asked to take me home. Didn\'t have much choice.....
[10:14] michael: ok remind me, exactly what plans did we make?
[10:15] michael: actually forget it, just leave me alone, interesting that msn is working now.
[11:52] SoulGrind: dood, i rang up. "michael, u wanna do something tonight, have a few drinks" your reply, "yes" then all of the suddon we\'re back in rowville, you fucking me off for anthony 5 mintues after we\'re talking about what we could do.. pretty fucken lame thing to do.
[11:54] SoulGrind: but off course, you can\'t see how it was a asshole thing to do..
[11:54] michael: actually i can
[11:55] michael: give me a min, and i\'ll try explain
[11:55] SoulGrind: explain away..
Session Close (michael): Tue Jun 07 11:56:08 2005
Session Start (soulgrind3@hotmail.com:michael): Tue Jun 07 12:03:39 2005
[12:03] michael:
I liked it better when you came over now and then for a bbq or a linkup, but now it seems you ring me up every weekend to invite yourself either to my place or to wherever Im going. I like to feel free, and I dont feel like Im free to do what I want. Also when Anthony rings me it usually because he has something on his mind that he wants to talk about. I think I failed to see how rude it was at the time because I was comeing down off an e. So I\'m sorry if I hurt your feelings.
[12:05] SoulGrind: i don\'t call u to linger along dood, if i see you at petes house normally i go because ive been asked by pete or shane.. As for going to your place i ask, i don\'t invite myself. If you don\'t want me around there just say so..
Session Close (michael): Tue Jun 07 12:08:57 2005
Session Start (soulgrind3@hotmail.com:michael): Tue Jun 07 12:09:36 2005
[12:09] michael: so when you ring and ask, whats a nice way for me to say "no, i just wanna stay home with helen, or go for a cruze, or keep my options open, instead of commiting myself to an evening with you?"
[12:10] michael: its not easy
[12:10] michael: maybe im just not good enough with words, but i dont think theres a polite way to go about it
[12:10] SoulGrind: simply say, nar don\'t feel like doing anything... but hey, if our friendship goes as far as i\'m just a good buddy for when u have nothing better to do, then its a shitty friendship to begin with.
[12:12] michael: We shouldnt have to catch up every weekend, I see shane less than that and im still freinds with him.
[12:13] SoulGrind: i have no problems with that dood, i ring shane, he can say, nar i don\'t feel like doing anything and i\'m fine with that..
[12:14] michael: I feel like if I say "nah, dont feel like doing anything", and then you hear about me doing something, that you will be offended.
[12:16] SoulGrind: wouldn\'t u be? if u rang me, and i said "nar i don\'t feel like doing something" then u heard that i went out with someone else.. u wouldn\'t be offended?
[12:17] michael: nope, I\'d just figure you felt like hanging out with whoever that person was.
[12:18] SoulGrind: personally i find it offensive... but i guess thats just me... wouldn\'t surprise me if most people thought that way..
[12:18] michael: I really wouldnt mind
[12:18] SoulGrind: ok, so basically i shouldn\'t bother calling u anymore and wait for u to contact me?
[12:18] michael: you shouldnt have to make an effort to see all your freinds at once
[12:20] michael: nah, ring me
[12:20] michael: but if I wanna keep my options open, dont expect me to make plans
[12:20] SoulGrind: but then you\'d feel trapped and would say yes, when u really are thinking no?
[12:20] michael: vise -versa
[12:21] SoulGrind: i don\'t mind u saying no to me, just don\'t make plans with me then fuck me over during them for whatever reason.
[12:21] michael: now that we have had this conversation, I wont feel trapped, coz i know you understand now.
[12:22] SoulGrind: its like this, i treat others how i\'d want to be treated.. i expect the same from mates.
[12:23] michael: same, we didnt really have plans, the only thing we planned was to catch up, and we did that, we had no further plans at the time i dropped you off.
[12:24] michael: If had of been you that wanted to go do something else I would have been cool with it.
[12:24] SoulGrind: we stood at your front door, i asked u if u cared if i stayed the rest of the night, u said its fine... i call that a plan.
[12:25] michael: yeah i guess it was, like i said i was a bit scattered.
[12:26] SoulGrind: don\'t take drugs... they\'re bad mmmmkay.
[12:26] michael: i\'d better do some work
[12:26] SoulGrind: laterz.
What i learnt from this.
1. Michael pretty much only contacts me when he has nothing better to do or wants something.
2. He seems to have this feeling that i\'m everywhere he is, yet i\'ve been invited by other people to be there, not even knowing michael will be there. Being mates places, pubs, clubs etc
(side rant) Whats even more retarded is we have a circle of friends that hang out every weekend, what am i meant to do, say no to my other mates because michael will most likely be there.
3. Drugs are bad mmmmkay. They\'ve made a person that used to be a cool dood into some paranoid asshole..
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you forgot the "take a walk in the park at 6am option"
he\'d like that
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He probably would....
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heh sounds like a guy and a girl in a relationship goin\' at it. ;) almost sounds as if you\'re not getting enough time to spend with him. but if you guys were just sittin around kickin\' it, then this tony dude calls up and he just leaves you...that\'s wrong...but maybe micheal took it as "well me & soully were just here chillin\' knockin back a few beers, we\'re not doing anything"...
i don\'t know it\'s hard to say, i don\'t think i would\'ve been too upset over it, now if me & my boy was on our way to the club and some chickenhead calls up to give him some a$$, and if he was about to bust a u-turn, i\'d definitely have to whoop his a$$...:p
as far as what i would do? meh i\'d give him another chance, tho i wouldn\'t play him too close,(it seemed like he had this "whatever" attitude) and it also seemed like he was tryin to blow you off at the end of that conversation...
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Thats pretty much how i see it, i\'m gonna do a little test.. not contact him in any way for awhile and see what happens. Most likely i\'ll never hear from him again, if so... no great loss.
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Taser him, taser him repeatidly.....whoops, wrong thread. Silly me.
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Wow... you two really did resolve that like a married couple. If it were me I\'d just not really fucking care that much. He seems a bit gay tho... Its just strange how he\'s so uncomfortable with just saying "i don\'t feel like hanging out". With my buddies, if I don\'t feel like doing anything, I say so straight up, and vice versa.
Just a strange friendship you have. To be honest, it doesn\'t seem like he really wants to be friends very much.
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I can\'t believe you\'re actually asking us. Make your own damn plans! This happens a lot! You gotta do your own thing and not get all dependant on some guy. Be a man. Seriously.
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Is this the guy you take long walks at dawn with? If so, he may be cheaTING ON YOU!
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I agree with Soulgrind.
You guys were plotting a plan before this Tony guy rang. I guess Michal thought Tony\'s plan was better, so he went with that.
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I bet Michael thinks Tony is much more fun to hang out with than Soulgrind. That is obvious.
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You need to remove the words "fucking me off" from your vocabulary. Sounds very teh ghey.
But Michael is going about this like a retard. You need to resolve this issue on your own. I don\'t think any of us can help you out.
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I am resolving this on my own, i don\'t see anyone here talking to michael. I just wanted opinions. As for michael liking tony more or less, i couldn\'t care less about that. I\'m shitty about being fucked over, not who he prefers to hang out with.
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Yeah...friends can be real a**holes sometimes. :/
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seriously, man. All kidding aside, I\'ve been in bands with friends for 18 years, and that\'s when you really see yourself getting blown off. How about the day of a gig and your band is shaky, and everyone goes bowling 3 hour before the gig instead of rehearsing. And they don\'t tell you. So you wait and wait, and they show up all hammered, and you et to play the shittiest show ever. Shit happens, and your friends never wipe.
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I seriously think you two just need to screw and get it over with. THere is some obvious sexual tension.
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I find it amusing how some people act like they\'ve never had a blue with a mate...
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Blue balls?
Oh, I voted the third one down.
Mainly because I had no clue what it meant.
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blue = australian slang for fight.
3rd = have a go at him, see what happens.
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Blue balls?
Oh, I voted the third one down.
Mainly because I had no clue what it meant.
Yeah...the third one sounds really gay.
3rd = have a go at him, see what happens.
That still sounds gay.
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Yep. Have a go at him.
No way to take that other than gay.
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whats with all the gay talk? sounds like a bunch of fags testing the water to me.
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Originally posted by §ôµÏG®ïñD
whats with all the gay talk? sounds like a bunch of fags testing the water to me.
No, actually it\'s you not realizing that you\'re writing ambiguous statements.
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only by people that think in the same way as fags.
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Originally posted by §ôµÏG®ïñD
only by people that think in the same way as fags.
Stop using the word fag, dude. That word isn\'t right. I\'m just kidding with you.
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I\'m sorry, am i offending u? I guess saying gays are fags does offend some fags errhh gays.. I do apologise.
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Originally posted by §ôµÏG®ïñD
I\'m shitty about being fucked over, not who he prefers to hang out with.
Well, the root of the problem is \'who-ever he prefers to hang out with\' at any given time or who has the best plan iho. So, that\'s a bit of an attitude problem he has.
You, being left, is indeed merely the result of that problem.
Real problems are not solved by just supressing the symptoms....
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Originally posted by §ôµÏG®ïñD
I\'m sorry, am i offending u? I guess saying gays are fags does offend some fags errhh gays.. I do apologise.
You\'re such a f*cking moron it\'s beyond comprehension. I said that because it\'s a f*cking derogatory term. Grow up.
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Well, how about you stop being a cock head, and saying everything sounds gay. Then i\'ll stop saying fag..
You fucken anal raping fag!!
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I told you I was kidding, but you keep dragging this on. How about everyone else that was calling you gay?
...oh, and in case you missed this part..."I was kidding"...
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i\'m sorry, i forgot the part where i was meant to laugh, and nobody else bytched about me using the term fag.
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It\'s just a derogatory term, and I\'m having a bad week. :/
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derogatory terms are thrown around this forum like no tomorrow, why would u give a shit about the term "fag" so much.. Do you bitch when some dood says "man, that chick is one hot ass bitch" etc.. doubtfull.
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Are we done here? I know I am.
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I see you get my point....
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Originally posted by EviscerationX
You\'re such a f*cking moron it\'s beyond comprehension. I said that because it\'s a f*cking derogatory term. Grow up.
You couldn\'t tell that in the other thread?
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It\'s a sad sad day when people i thought were cool, are indeed total dickheads because they can\'t simply fathom what a opinion is or accept the view of someone who has a different one.
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Originally posted by §ôµÏG®ïñD
It\'s a sad sad day when people i thought were cool, are indeed total dickheads because they can\'t simply fathom what a opinion is or accept the view of someone who has a different one.
Um...dude? I accept your opinion from the other thread. You can\'t sway someone when they have a strong opinion about something. Opinions are opinions and we\'re all allowed to have one. In fact...I enjoyed that debate because I don\'t think in the entire time I\'ve been here that I\'ve debated with anyone like that. I have nothing against you.
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Ok, lets all just drop it. I am just so strong minded that I would let something like an opinion carry over to other stuff, it\'s true.
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I see you get my point....
Indeed. ;)
Ok, lets all just drop it.
I agree.
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^^^I like how you just responded to the quotes with sexual innuendo. We getin all psychological on you nukka!!
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Are you trying to be obnoxious?
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Dood, you need to get laid.
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Who are you talking to, dude? WTF? Do you never stop?
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i was joking around m8y. :) i\'ll quit now just for u
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Originally posted by THX
i was joking around m8y. :) i\'ll quit now just for u
I know...I\'m juz playin\', G.
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Mic shouldn\'t be a name.
That\'s stupid.