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Non Gaming Discussions => Off-Topic => Topic started by: Bladez on September 01, 2009, 10:55:58 PM
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I\'m sure some of you know what happened to my girlfriend...but incase you don\'t she committed suicide last Friday. Is there anything I can do to feel better about the situation? Her mom mostly is being a major bitch about things and probably won\'t have a public memorial for her. I don\'t know what to do fellas(and small percentage of females on here) Any suggestions?
--Bladez
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dude... is this for real? I\'m not convinced (yet). You call your parents getting into gaming an upside. I mean wtf?
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To give this an update:
Unfortunately her parents are being real shits, they\'re not having a funeral or nothing like that. It\'s still pretty shocking to even be talking about it still. On an upside my parents got into gaming, started with a Wii, but I\'m trying to convince them to get a PS3 and HDTV. Anyway that\'s about it I\'ll talk to you all later.
I don\'t know what to say...and i kinda agree with politiepet. How can you say on the upside my parents have gotten into gaming? I know it\'s hard to convey what you\'re tryin\' to say over the net, but if i witnessed something along the lines of what you mentioned, i wouldn\'t be stating "on the upside my parents are into gaming."...it\'s like you\'re sayin\' "oh well my gf died and life goes on"
I could be wrong and maybe you\'re still in shock, but from the outside lookin\' in it seems like you didn\'t care very much for her, in the way you kinda go off and talk about other subjects...that said how\'s her daughter doing?....i would imagine as devastating as it was for you to find her, it must\'ve been absolutely terrorfying for her.
The only thing i can suggest is to maybe hang out with friends and keep good company....and it\'s natural to grief when you\'re alone, but i don\'t recommend you locking yourself up and griefing for weeks on end, and i\'m not sayin to forget your gf as time heals everything, i just don\'t think it\'s healthy to stay in constant grief...go out...stay in good company and hang out with your menz for some relief.
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that sucks, dude. Life kicks you around a lot. Sometimes you get kicked in the balls. Remember, alcohol is a depressant...
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Yeah it\'ll probably just take time. It\'s normal that it\'d feel really shitty. Eventually the hurt will mostly fade and you\'ll be left with the positive memories and good thoughts.
I don\'t know if any of us can really relate, but it\'s never easy to lose a loved one. You might just be going through the motions now, but life\'ll return to normal eventually.
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Clips and polite pet..it is not uncommon for a person grieving to skew off subject, sometimes about the oddest things. Its like trying to find a silver lining in the dark cloud.
Bladez, surround yourself with those close to you or others that have dealt with suicide before. They will be the best help you can use right now. I wont lie and say try to forget about it, b/c you probably never will. You do have to move on as soon as you can before it starts to affect your personal life any further.
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I can\'t even imagine how you feel man.
If her parents are acting badly towards you, don\'t take it too personally (easier said then done). But they\'re very likely in shock just like you and feel like they have to, I don\'t want to say blame, but channel their anger towards someone. It sucks and it\'s unfair, but it\'s not unexpected.
Just remember her, talk to mutual friends about her. Talk to somebody she didn\'t know about her, tell somebody about the good times and the bad. Not knowing what to do and feeling weird about feeling so little is natural, you\'re propably still in shock and it takes time to set in.
You have my deepest condolences buddy...
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It was 1 of those things just trying to keep my mind from seeing and hearing that scene all over again. I\'ve never had to deal with this kind of thing ever and some days it\'s easier to forget the scene/screams but on other days I don\'t know how to really react to the whole situation. I\'ve had people pass away and been around death. This is different however since I not only knew her personally but intimately as well. You kind of get used to sleeping next to someone and then when you head to bed or wake up and that person isn\'t there(and not because of a break-up or something)you find that even difficult. I probably went through a lot more than what most people do at my age, especially with the circumstances(age differance a biggy) The reason it worked was we both made eachother happy and that\'s why I think it worked. I\'m just trying to go back a couple of weeks, hell even months, to see if I could have spotted this earlier. She liked to drink a lot, I mean she drank everyday, but it doesn\'t seem like that played the biggest factor of this. Depression and being stressed out about a lot of things is what I think did it. I\'m thinking she thought this would be an easier way out and not have to deal with things anymore. The only reason I brought up my parents and gaming was, sometimes for now, I just really don\'t know what to say to people. You guys are right, I don\'t think the initial shock has really set in, I mean I know she died, but she isn\'t coming back from this and I don\'t think that\'s quite sat in. Although me and her ex-family members(in-laws and husband) and her kids have got a plan to put on our own memorial at the Henry Doorly Zoo in Omaha. We can put a headstone in the butterfly garden and she\'ll be there for the rest of our lives. It\'s a great place because she was a big animal person. The only thing that really sucks about this whole situation is we still haven\'t said our "final good-byes" and we probably won\'t until next Saturday...my 23rd birthday. I don\'t know fellas, it\'s 1 of them things where I don\'t know after talking to people and what not, if I will EVER get over this completely. I know I probably won\'t, but I just wish I could remember the good and even bad times...just not the last 1 I had with her. I\'ll keep people posted in my journal so I don\'t run the off-topic forum up. Anyways thanks to everyone who has replied, I figured you guys were my brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts from other mothers. But with all that said if you guys have a myspace account I\'d appreciate trying to put a memorial of comments on my myspace. Just look for Cory Anglen with a pic. of Cartman holding a flashlight to his face...if you want to. Anyways I\'ll talk to you all at a later time.
--Bladez
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i don\'t know what to say but that\'s sad that she took her life. I remember reading your journal a few days ago (it was actually yesterday) where you posted that she killed herself but I kind of forgot about it the next moment. But hopefully everything will work out for you and your relatives. If you ever feel really down, try to find someone to be there for you.
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Well i have to take back some of those things i stated earlier...even tho i did state i could be wrong, it might\'ve came off looking a bit insensitive....and just to jump on what everybody else has been sayin\'...just continue to surround yourself around positive and supportive people you trust and keep your memories of her close to your heart...i\'ve never been through anything like that, but i can imagine it\'s probably heartwrenching on an unthinkable scale....take care of yourself Bladez...:fro: