My g/f is 5\'2 and has no problem at all with the controller so I can\'t see how it can be too big for any guy.
As for the buttons being too small or too close, I don\'t know what to say because after the first week I have had no problems at all adjusting to the pad.
But for god\'s sake why the hell are we still talking about the damn controller. This is as bad as the jaggy debate when the PS2 launched.