Author Topic: My parents are getting divorced (Read 2159 times)

Titan · « **Reply #30 on:** July 31, 2003, 10:48:34 AM »

I will try and put it into perspective for you. This a bit confusing. My dad still loves my mom. My mom thinks she\'s underappreciated and gets into these mood swings and she always threatens divorce. I never thought too much of it. She always told me she doesn\'t want to divorce and take me out of school for my last two years. She actually kind of promised this (this is why I\'m pissed off. That and its frustrating to go to another school district and not go to the school with the friends I\'ve had since Kindergarten). She hasn\'t said anything about divorce for a couple days so I think that it may not happen which is good. My mom gets into mood swings and she says a lot of stuff she doesn\'t mean but I just got scared because the first thing she says when I got home from work was that this was gonna happen. Will it happen, I don\'t know. My dad says its up to my mom.

« **Reply #31 on:** July 31, 2003, 10:51:20 AM »

You are right Titan, no one really knows what is going on but yourself. If your school has counsellours maybe have a talk with them. I know it isn\'t something one wants to do but maybe they could help you understand your feelings and deal with the stress.
Anyway, I wish you luck, hang in there.

Titan · « **Reply #32 on:** July 31, 2003, 11:05:10 AM »

Thanks guar. A ccouple are saying I\'m selfish. My mom says all this could happen also before the start of my senior year. Thats another year of shit to do (trust me, I don\'t understand taht part). Is it selfish for wanting to finish out high school with my friends instead of moving and finishing my senior year in a new school? I\'m thinking about maybe convincing my aunt who lives in my town to let me live with her for the 9 month school year, IF THIS HAPPENS. My parents may work this out. I hope they do. Maybe all they need is time away from each other.

Living-In-Clip · « **Reply #33 on:** July 31, 2003, 11:33:28 AM »

Blah blah blah.
My parents divorced years ago when I was thirteen and the last thing on my mind was "oh no - i\'ll have to move".

You\'ll change schools. Make new friends and life moves on.

By the way - most marraiges end up in divorce, its common now. It isn\'t that big of a deal now\'a\'days.

« **Reply #34 on:** July 31, 2003, 11:50:31 AM »

Oh and from the two experts I knew your parents had to have been divoced my parents divoced when I was 10 hell my mom has divorced 3 times since and I could tell you about all the crap that I went through including a couple of batered womens homes. But it happens.. Oh well it was rough and I got past it and Im no serial killer (I\'am afraid me gta vice city scores might say differently)

« **Reply #35 on:** July 31, 2003, 11:52:34 AM »

The selfish act is not being able to keep it together. That\'s selfish!

Titan · « **Reply #36 on:** July 31, 2003, 02:14:21 PM »

Cyrus and LIC, I\'m 16, 17 in a couple months. You were younger. You still had time to make new friends and get to really know them. I\'d have what, one year after things get squared away? Supposedly, after the courts and stuff, I\'ll be in my senior year of high school. I\'d have just senior year to make new friends and then leave them when I go to college and not have the time to get to know them. Anyway, things have calmed down quite a bit and not sure whats gonna happen.

« **Reply #37 on:** July 31, 2003, 03:58:54 PM »

Well I hope they can work it out really but if not then its for the best. Just dont get weird about it if it happens you cant keep all promises and sometimes its just better to break a few than to live a lie.

Living-In-Clip · « **Reply #38 on:** July 31, 2003, 04:23:26 PM »

I must be cold hearted, as I don\'t feel sorry for him in the least? Divorce\'s are so common now\'a\'days and the fact you are almost an adult makes it a lot easier for you to deal with. It shouldn\'t really even be an issue.

« **Reply #39 on:** July 31, 2003, 04:25:53 PM »

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Originally posted by Living-In-Clip
I must be cold hearted

I think you might be.

Cyrus, nice avatar.

« **Reply #40 on:** July 31, 2003, 05:57:59 PM »

Hmmm, stupid question perhaps, but why can I see some people\'s avatars and not others?....

My parents got divorced when I was five, try that one on for size. But yeah, like someone else said, it sucks, it really does, but you\'re at an age you\'re not around your parents that much anymore right? And then, of course, the aforementioned 2x gifts etc etc

Hope things work out for ya

« **Reply #41 on:** July 31, 2003, 08:18:06 PM »

I dont understand how titan is being selfish.....if anyone is being selfish its his parents. As a parent it is their job to raise their children until they can live on their own. It\'s just not right for a kid no matter what age to have one parent leave and then have to go to a new school and start their livves all over.

« **Reply #42 on:** July 31, 2003, 09:40:44 PM »

Okay, no one is being selfish, things happen, sometimes marriages dont work out.

But that doesnt mean Titan should be fine all of a sudden, and if LIC is expecting him to feel nothing that is absurd, maybe, LIC had an easier experience, but you HAVE to let other people deal with it in there own way. People will all have different experiences with this type of thing, depending on the exact situation...

Titan · « **Reply #43 on:** August 01, 2003, 03:58:54 PM »

Alright, things are getting heated up again. My brother and I have been getting into fights with my mom. She is getting all messed up. I\'m trying to avoid confrontation because my mom won\'t stop until she feels she won. Until then, I seek comfort with my friends (even though one of my best friends who I\'ve been seeking counsil to is on vacation). I really want to call her and talk to her. She really helps calm me down and what not. Thats one reason I posted it here is to gain some support from you guys.

I\'m still holding together well. My mind is still unaffected (well maybe alittle after I smashed my head in the bottom of the pool today). I\'m pretty strong. I\'ll get through this. I just hope they don\'t battle over custody. I really don\'t want to go with either. I just want to stay in my crappy little town with my kickass friends and finish off high school.

LIC, why so cold? I\'ve been with my parents for 16+ years. I\'m supposed to just live my life pretending everything is perfect?

« **Reply #44 on:** August 01, 2003, 04:35:57 PM »

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Originally posted by cloud345
I dont understand how titan is being selfish.....if anyone is being selfish its his parents. As a parent it is their job to raise their children until they can live on their own. It\'s just not right for a kid no matter what age to have one parent leave and then have to go to a new school and start their livves all over.

Who said they wont be raising their children just because they dont live toghether?? Besides the best part of my wedding was that my parents took up the WHOLE FRONT ROW of the chapel!! mother, and step father, father and step mother, mother inlaw and stepfather inlaw, father inlaw and stepmother inlaw. I mean doestn that sound like great fun

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