I should also specify that I am not really flipping how's like flapjacks. My daughters mother and I selerated years ago. Mutually. No hard feelings and we get along great. I married my wife five years ago, been completely faithful and am glad to have the family I have.
Learned a lot in that first relationship though. Mainly that if you are staying for the kids, you're probably neglecting the kids. We never done anything as a family. It was always separate, because we didn't have that family bond. Now, with my wife it is completely different. I have joint custody of my daughters, four days a week and we do everything as a family. Time changes us and lessons, like this define us. I look back and read this thread and realize how immature I was and consider myself blessed to not only be alive, but to have come out of it all fairly well.