Souly\'s building a house!

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I win.
My EX and I have two kids. She\'s a complete nutjob who wants to be friends one day and the next wants to take me to court. My upcoming marriage and house hunting isnt helping, as I refused to marry or buy a house with her.

So, I\'m dealing with an EX who wants to fight over stupid stuff (whom I end up appeasing, so I can continue to see my kids four days a week) and I\'m juggling a wedding and house purchasing.

I\'m totally FTW.

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I win.
My EX and I have two kids. She\'s a complete nutjob who wants to be friends one day and the next wants to take me to court. My upcoming marriage and house hunting isnt helping, as I refused to marry or buy a house with her.

So, I\'m dealing with an EX who wants to fight over stupid stuff (whom I end up appeasing, so I can continue to see my kids four days a week) and I\'m juggling a wedding and house purchasing.

I\'m totally FTW.

It gets real complicated with kids involved....and believe me LIC, you do NOT want your ex to take you to court..trust...i\'ve been there and the court will take HALF of your income. I have my kids livin\' with me now, but when i had to pay child support, that s**t was killing me. So when i say this i\'m not telling you to cave-in to her, but if you could work it out to where you do NOT have to go to court, then maybe you should cater to her silly interests and concerns.

The only time i say let her take you to court is only if she\'s using court as a threat to get you to do things she wants you to do....that\'s what my chickenhead ex tried to do to me....i payed for it, but i wasn\'t gonna jump thru hoops just so she wouldn\'t go to court,...i\'m not gonna lie tho, child support had me hemmed up,..i couldn\'t do or buy practically anything. So avoid going to court at all costs, unless she\'s trying to take your manhood.

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She mentions court when things don\'t go her way. Problem is, I already have a lawyer (she doesnt) and since we\'ve split up, I watch our girls 3-4 days a week, my parents watch them one day a week. Which means, their mother, on the average, has them two days (or a day and half). Soon as we split up, I established child support, so it couldn\'t be said that I was trying to avoid it. I also document everything. They\'re four years old and potty trained, but when they are with her, she still ,puts them in pulls up. I know because they complain about it. So, at this point, I\'m just building up everything I can , so that when the time comes, if she decides to go to court, I\'ll have a very solid case against her.

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well, parents bought a new washing machine so i\'ll get theirs as well as the dish washer, friends at work are gonna try and find me a fridge. A mate said i could borrow his bar fridge too. So i\'m starting to collect the shit i\'ll need to live in the house.

She mentions court when things don\'t go her way. Problem is, I already have a lawyer (she doesnt) and since we\'ve split up, I watch our girls 3-4 days a week, my parents watch them one day a week. Which means, their mother, on the average, has them two days (or a day and half). Soon as we split up, I established child support, so it couldn\'t be said that I was trying to avoid it. I also document everything. They\'re four years old and potty trained, but when they are with her, she still ,puts them in pulls up. I know because they complain about it. So, at this point, I\'m just building up everything I can , so that when the time comes, if she decides to go to court, I\'ll have a very solid case against her.

The world can be a fukked up place, I feel for you here.  I haven\'t been there personally but my ex dealt with that day-to-day, which meant I was roped into it too.  Definitely not a fun experience.

Damn I hope we look back at this thread in a year and are in a MUCH better place.  Because right now, it sucks.

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I agree man, I agree.. It seems too that its mostly chicks that do it. Its like they\'re been wired wrong or some shit. Not to say there isn\'t dickheads out there.
She used to say i don\'t apprecate her, when i tell her she\'s a good girlfriend she twists it around as if i\'m calling her a dog. I just couldn\'t win.


The house is getting painted now, so fitting stage will be next. Then i\'ll go in, report what i don\'t like. Get the flooring done and wella, i start to live in the house.

Hopefully lisa will keep her word and help me get the driveway done. At this point, i got no idea on how she will be. Hopefully civil. I\'ll get 3 quotes so she can choose which one to go for. We have a joint account we both put money in. She\'s been doing it still so i\'m happy with that.  

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Another stage of the house completed, their at the last stage now. I\'m getting better as time moves on. Lisa is still on my mind, not as much as she was before, slowly slipping away. At first i fought it, now i\'m letting it happen. I still miss her, its driving me nutz.

Still don\'t understand what happened between us. I think she felt that i was being distant and not showing enough affectation. Maybe i did, i donno. If i was like that i didn\'t mean to be, i had heaps on my mind, house, work mate shitting me etc. But its a 2 way street. For every hug i didn\'t give her, she could have given me one and i would have reciprocated.  I won\'t figure it out. I think she still loved me, don\'t understand why someone would throw it all away instead of just talking it out and telling me her worries.
Every once in a while a reason for this pops in my head, but its pointless so I\'ve pretty much stopped trying. In time she\'ll be a memory, i just wish that time would come sooner. If she wanted to sort things out she would have by now.

I think i\'ll be in the house before the end of the year. I found out lisa won\'t have to live with me.

Glad to hear the house is coming along very nice. Looks like it is going to be a great place to live. As far as for your crazy ex. You will never know why she did what she did. Even if she ever tries to explain it will just seem very selfish of her.

Next year this time you are going to look back on this thread and go wtf. But I guess this is all part of the healing process. It\'s hard when you lose someone you really love and the other person seems like they didn\'t give a damn.

Thank goodness for you that it\'s over man. There ain\'t nothing worst than being with a person who truly does not have your best interest at heart. When it is all said in done you\'re going to realize that she did you a huge favor.

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yea, time will heal the wounds. I even suggested going to counseling with her. Can\'t remember if it was directly to her (i think i did in a email), but i did suggest it to her father.

But, she has made no effort to get in contact with me, or even talk it out. So i won\'t sit around waiting, I\'m moving on doin my thing. Her family is probably telling her not to get in contact with me. I told her mother directly to tell lisa to call me, still nothing.  I always felt they didn\'t like me so i wouldn\'t be surprised. Its strange, i can\'t even remember her face anymore. It still baffles me that people can throw away so much history without even a second thought. We had A LOT of history. We\'ve both supported each other through deaths, surgeries, money, family issues etc.  I think the biggest problem people have is they blame others for  their happiness. When they\'re in control of their own. I learnt this major lesson from this. Only person that can make me happy is me, future partner(s) will just increase that happiness.

if that makes sense.

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Too much to read.

Heard you\'re selling your house.

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no i\'m not. Hopefully i\'ll or mic will buy lisa\'s share of her. No agents = less money lost = more for her = everyone is happy.

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went down there yesterday, they\'ve started the tiling now. Not sure how long is left but it looking to be pretty close. They haven\'t put in any electrical sockets yet or light fittings, so once they\'re done.. Garage door, ducted vac etc.  Then i gotta do the entry tiling with my dad, get the flooring done and wella, i move in.

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went down to the house, no progress. Got no idea whats going on atm.

[Jumpman]

Start yelling at people.

People respond to yelling, maybe not in a positive way but make them earn the money you\'re paying them.

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i think they\'re waiting for the bank ot release the money for the next stage. i\'ll go down on saturday to see if anything changes.. If nothing happens, i\'ll call the builder and find out whats happening..