Girls, what to do??

Originally posted by Rya
You\'re still in love with her, right?  Consider how scared you are about telling her and hurting her.  From a scale of 1-10, is the scared level at 10 or close to it?  4 and a half years is a long time and that tingly, new feeling may be fading.  I totally know how you feel.  There was a time when Ryu and I were bored to tears with each other.

What you need to do is rekindle that tingly feeling.  Do something new.  Ask her out on a date like it was your first.  Do something different like take her to a play where she can dress up and eat at a fancy restaurant.  Cooking is even better!  Or better yet, bake something with her.  This summer you two can take an activity course at your local recreation center.  Or volunteer in the community together.  You don\'t have to talk or converse with each other.  Just do.   You can discuss with her what kinds of different things she wants to do.  Do something meaningful to the both of you.

Don\'t try to dismiss the relationship just because you both are bored.  That\'s not how you fix things.  Try to bring that old spark back.  Who cares if you\'re young?  What if you were to break up and that was the biggest mistake of your life?

Anyway, I wish you luck.

Rick u should listen to this Rya he/she has a good point. But if thats not what you wanna do than just break to her.

Thanks for the help Rya, the thing is, today, I have reached breaking point and I dont think there is any way back, its really started to f**k me up. I\'ve been tryin so hard for 18 months now, and its just stressed me out too much. Its finally got to me and I dont think I can take it any more. I\'ll fill yous in tomorrow, thanx for the help anyway guys, much appreciated.

Rick u should listen to this Rya he/she has a good point. But if thats not what you wanna do than just break to her.

She has a great point and I am her significant other.

Originally posted by Ryu

She has a great point and I am her significant other.

haha.. I cracked up when I read that..


Yeah.. Rya\'s got it down.. lol

But hey... Don\'t do anything you\'ll regret..

Rya has a very good point. And 4 yrs as a lot to though away. 3 things you need to rember here. 1 is that in any realationship you WILL get bored. I have been with my wife now for 5 yrs, and yes there are times that I woud rather be a work then home. You have to work in a realationship. 2 You will all ways get offers. Just becouse you are in a realationship doesn\'t mean that you have blinders on. I dont put myself in a place that I have to say no, I stay away from the temptation. And 3, you have offers know but as soon as you become singel those offers are out the window.
   But it realy sounds like you have made up your mind as it is.

I had the same problem........I got over it and moved on.....BTW Welome t the Forums Rya!




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haha.. I cracked up when I read that..

Why?

Does that make you a shemale?

Originally posted by Rick
Thanks for the help Rya, the thing is, today, I have reached breaking point and I dont think there is any way back, its really started to f**k me up. I\'ve been tryin so hard for 18 months now, and its just stressed me out too much. Its finally got to me and I dont think I can take it any more. I\'ll fill yous in tomorrow, thanx for the help anyway guys, much appreciated.

Oh, I\'m so sorry to hear that, Rick.  I hope that you can work things out someway, someday.  *here comes another Ryu and me story*...Ryu and I actually broke up for a year because we thought we couldn\'t work things out.  We were in the same rut as you, but we decided to give it another shot.  I swear, when we got back together and some time had passed, we were fighting as though we were picking it up from where we left off.  But we learned how to talk to each other and work out problems no matter how ugly it got.  It was a tough road.

So I wish you the same.  It\'d be shame to let 4 and a half years of effort and commitment go to waste.

.....BTW Welome t the Forums Rya!

Thanks for the greeting, KillaX!

Originally posted by Styx
but as soon as you become singel those offers are out the window.

WORD

They only want what they can\'t get.

[videoholic]

Rick is obviously leaving out a lot of detail here.  To say you are bored with a relationship and that the sex isn\'t good anymore, well that is your fault and her fault.  And what makes you think a different girl would be any better?

No one ever said a relationship is easy.  Anyone can have a girlfriend for a year or two.  It\'s making it last 5-10-20-50 years is what counts.  Lona and I have our boring times, but we try to do things together at least every once and a while to get us through.  

Hot chicks come and go.  Luckily mine came and stayed.

Anyway, my advice is to imagine that your chick is the only girl in the world.  If she is the only girl in the world then you better make her happy or she will leave you.  Do some things to make yourselves feel like it\'s all new....   By some edible underwear and a 2 foot dildo.

Thanx for all the advice guys, you\'ve really helped me out. She came round last night and we tried to sort things out. We have split up for now, but will still have to see each other as we have the same friends. Its gonna be hard, but we\'ll see how it goes. I doubt it will be long before we are back together. Thanks again, and vid, I\'ll be borrowing that 2 foot dildo off you, ok

Originally posted by Videoholic
By some edible underwear and a 2 foot dildo.

I think n0-0ne is busy this weekend.

Originally posted by Videoholic

No one ever said a relationship is easy.  Anyone can have a girlfriend for a year or two.  It\'s making it last 5-10-20-50 years is what counts.  Lona and I have our boring times, but we try to do things together at least every once and a while to get us through.  

Hot chicks come and go.  Luckily mine came and stayed.

I would never think for a moment a man with a picture of arafat striping would give good relationship adivice way to go vid

i know its after now, but yeah think about it!!!! i mean 4 years is a ong time, and there must be some eason youv been ogether that long......id try to work on it..... ok the other girls may be hot, but you may only seethem once....if i was you id work on it!!!! the worst that can happen is that split....but if you split and then relise its a mistake.....u prob wont get her back,,as she wll hve moved on, or just pulled loadsa other men!!!


but yeah idtake her out, do some stuff different