Don\'t be an idiot, like me..(Relationships!)

[Living-In-Clip]

Relationships suck. Or I should say, I suck.

I\'ve been dating my current girlfriend for about seven months now. We never made it "exclusive" though, because I just got out of a three year relationship and the thought of being "exclusive" just freaked me out. I also refused to say the \'L word\' (love). She would tell me that someone asked her out or something and she always said no. I, for some reason, kept telling her it was okay and I understood if she wanted to go out with someone else - after all I am the first one she has had a serious relationship with. Well, you know what they say.. You can only encourage someone so much until they go out and do it.

Flash foward to lastnight (Saturday). She signs online because my phone is busy and asks me if I wish to meet her parents finally. I say sure and we all go out to dinner. Her father and I hit it off and her mother and I , well her mother didn\'t really like me, but oh well. I thought everything was perfect.  Little did I know.. My girlfriend and I get alone for alittle bit and she tells me she went out with the other guy one day. I was shocked to say the least and felt my heart just totally drop. What I thought wouldn\'t bother me , infact totally destroyed me. It occured to me at that very mintue, the thing I said I didn\'t want, an exclusive relationship with her, is what I actually do want.

She felt bad about it and asked me if I was mad at her. I explained to her, I couldn\'t be mad at her. I in reality, encouraged her to go do it. I was mad at myself. She asked me why I never said I loved her and other things, why I avoided anything that was commited . She basically doubted that I was serious about her. She had her doubts on me, because I was an idiot. Sure, I would do romantic things like surprise her with gifts, but when it came to me saying I loved her or displaying a small amount of jealousy just to show I care, I never did.

We discussed things barely, before her parents found us off in a corner. Of course, we didn\'t discuss it with them there and decided that we would go out on her next day off and just discuss things. Say everything that needs to be said and see where it goes from there. I have confidence that when we discuss everything, her and I will end up commited to each other and so on. However, if we don\'t, I have no one to blame except myself. That is the whole point to this thread, don\'t be a total idiot and pretend you don\'t want something, to find out that you do when its too late. They say you live and learn from the lessons in life but I can say this is one lesson that I wish I would of avoided.

Just don\'t be an idiot and say what you have to say. Don\'t act like me. Because at this point, I am a complete idiot.

YOU IDIOT!!! JK I feel sorry for you.... I hope that dat don\'t happen to me;).....

boy was that dumb!!!JK
poor thing:crying:

yet another reason why i should not get a girlfriend.... jk.

man that sucks, livin, i hope everything works out, if you explain everything to her, she should understand..

Wow, that was really dumb. You\'re a complete idiot. N/K(not kidding).

LIC- "Yeah honey, it\'s ok to have crazy sex other guys. I don\'t mind a bit. "

LIC, are you a moron in a cage?

[nO-One]

YOU SAID I WAS THE ONLY ONE. HOW CAN YOU DO THIS TO ME, FIRST SAMWISE NOW YOU. I FEEL SO ABANDONED BUHUHUHUHU

[Living-In-Clip]

Correction: I never mentioned sex. They met and went to a movie one night and that was it. Though, even she did have sex , techincally it would be because I\'m an idiot, so all the remarks saying I\'m an idiot - well, are accepted and so very true.


My only point to the thread was, sometimes we feel things and don\'t say them for whatever reason and it ends up costing us. My reason was fear of commiting due to a prior relationship. It seemed like a good reason at the time, but now I realize it was a dumb reason.

YOU SAID I WAS THE ONLY ONE. HOW CAN YOU DO THIS TO ME, FIRST SAMWISE NOW YOU. I FEEL SO ABANDONED BUHUHUHUHU

Well, you live so far away and you never call anymore.

[nO-One]

You\'ve been so cold and distant these last few days, I needed a break. And now I get these news.......all I can say is that me and Sublimesjg will be very happy for the rest of our lives.

Originally posted by Living-In-Clip
Relationships suck. Or I should say, I suck.

I\'ve been dating my current girlfriend for about seven months now. We never made it "exclusive" though, because I just got out of a three year relationship and the thought of being "exclusive" just freaked me out. I also refused to say the \'L word\' (love). She would tell me that someone asked her out or something and she always said no. I, for some reason, kept telling her it was okay and I understood if she wanted to go out with someone else - after all I am the first one she has had a serious relationship with. Well, you know what they say.. You can only encourage someone so much until they go out and do it.

Flash foward to lastnight (Saturday). She signs online because my phone is busy and asks me if I wish to meet her parents finally. I say sure and we all go out to dinner. Her father and I hit it off and her mother and I , well her mother didn\'t really like me, but oh well. I thought everything was perfect.  Little did I know.. My girlfriend and I get alone for alittle bit and she tells me she went out with the other guy one day. I was shocked to say the least and felt my heart just totally drop. What I thought wouldn\'t bother me , infact totally destroyed me. It occured to me at that very mintue, the thing I said I didn\'t want, an exclusive relationship with her, is what I actually do want.

She felt bad about it and asked me if I was mad at her. I explained to her, I couldn\'t be mad at her. I in reality, encouraged her to go do it. I was mad at myself. She asked me why I never said I loved her and other things, why I avoided anything that was commited . She basically doubted that I was serious about her. She had her doubts on me, because I was an idiot. Sure, I would do romantic things like surprise her with gifts, but when it came to me saying I loved her or displaying a small amount of jealousy just to show I care, I never did.

We discussed things barely, before her parents found us off in a corner. Of course, we didn\'t discuss it with them there and decided that we would go out on her next day off and just discuss things. Say everything that needs to be said and see where it goes from there. I have confidence that when we discuss everything, her and I will end up commited to each other and so on. However, if we don\'t, I have no one to blame except myself. That is the whole point to this thread, don\'t be a total idiot and pretend you don\'t want something, to find out that you do when its too late. They say you live and learn from the lessons in life but I can say this is one lesson that I wish I would of avoided.

Just don\'t be an idiot and say what you have to say. Don\'t act like me. Because at this point, I am a complete idiot.

I know what you mean.
I had missed a lot of opportunities in my past with girls i really liked, and even loved, but i was too stupid, and proud to be honest with them...  i still regret it.  

Sara if you are reading this, I LOVE YOU !

right, like she would care now. :rolleyes:

Originally posted by Living-In-Clip
I am a complete idiot.

JOIN THE CLUB

tell you what i suck at relationships ...... i mean suck !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:mad:

i know its all my fault ..... my self esteem ! its a killer .....

Calling LiC an idiot isn\'t going to help him any. Even though he himself feels that way, we mustn\'t reiterate that point. I\'m sure he feels bad enough as it is.

/ dm /

I hear ya clip, at least you\'ve realized your mistake and you can still do something about it, if you wish to. G\'luck man.

I do this kind of dumb crap all the time. Though not as serious as you.

Really hot girls (d\'oh!) always have like really huge crushes on me, before they even really get to know me, but I am too blinded by my own instinct to have fun, I never realize it, til they get over me for not showing ay interest, although I do, just not showing it!!!

Clip, you have just inspired me to call this girl I went to prom with last year, she really digs me and I think she is really hot and probably smarter than me, so who knows.


Wish me luck, fellow fools!


Eric Jacob

HA HA! I NEVER HAVE EVEN BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP OF ANY KIND! BEAT THAT, LOSERS!

Originally posted by Living-In-Clip
I have confidence that when we discuss everything, her and I will end up commited to each other and so on.

I could tell much worse stories of idiocy than this one, so don\'t feel so bad.  I think your girlfriend just did this to get your attention, and it worked.  If she\'s the one for you, then consider yourself lucky that she took matters into her own hands.  Know thyself, and you\'ll always know what to do.