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Offline SirMystiq

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« on: April 07, 2003, 06:52:32 PM »
Your opinions about....


Sex: Think back when you were 15 or 16, you and your sweetie have been to first, second, third base...but never home. She starts to indirectly tell you that she wants the subject to be brought up by you, how the hell do you start a conversation with your chick about sex?!

Love:
Think back when you were 15 or 16. You used to tell your chica that you love her all the time, then she dumps you b/c she thinks you were taking it too seriously. Now you have another girlfriend, been together for a while now, she says that she loves you in an email but she also says she is too scared to say it sometimes. How do you respond to that? You are pretty sure that you love her too, but you are to scared that she might play you like other girls and break up with you because of the whole serious factor. Or she might start feeling worried that she feels like shes in love, but you never say it, for the above reasons. Do you take the risk and tell her? How? When? Where?

Communication:
Does having a good communication really affect a relationship? If you were too scared to bring up any of the above subjects does that mean you have no communication or trust in your partner??


Just tought I should ask.........
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« Reply #1 on: April 07, 2003, 07:00:41 PM »
Hmm... To tell your girlfriend "I love you" is serious business and aren\'t exactly words to say because its the "right thing". My girlfriend and I for instance say it openly, all the time, anytime. We don\'t get all freaked out, and react so immaturely to it. It depends on how serious the relationship really is. If you can\'t even say "I love you" to one another, then maybe you should step back and look things over.

About sex, it should be just as easy to bring up, as saying that you love her. You should never really ask for sex, it should be something that she wants, and by asking it could put her on the spot, and deliver unwanted pressure. If she\'s not comfortable talking about it, chances are she isn\'t interested in doing it either.

Communication is key. Second to trust as a matter of fact. If you can\'t bring up either love or sex, then you have to make some sort of initiative. The longer it goes without you talking about, the harder it will get to bring it up. If she really cared for you, she wouldn\'t think that you were "weird" or "persistant" for asking about it. In fact, chances are she\'s thought about it too.
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« Reply #2 on: April 07, 2003, 07:12:08 PM »
Ok, the whole "I love you" thing is just specifically for those 3 words. The thing is I tell her that "La quiero mucho" and "Mi amor" and things. But in spanish. She doesn\'t know spanish that well, She says that to me all the time also. The thing is, I\'ve never said "I Love you" like in english!! Haha. When I say that la quiero mucho I mean that I love her. Im just not sure that when she says it to me she means that she she loves me too, b/c if she translates te quiero into english it means "i like you".  Im open with my feelings and things, she is too but I\'ve seen too many relationships come apart because of those 3 words.

About sex...She wants to talk about it, but now adays its up to the guy to bring it up. I know she wants to talk about it b/c of the way she reacts to some of the things I say. She\'s very shy too, I want to ask her about how she feels about it and everything, but I have no clue on how to bring it up.
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« Reply #3 on: April 07, 2003, 07:22:04 PM »
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Ok, the whole "I love you" thing is just specifically for those 3 words. The thing is I tell her that "La quiero mucho" and "Mi amor" and things. But in spanish. She doesn\'t know spanish that well, She says that to me all the time also. The thing is, I\'ve never said "I Love you" like in english!! Haha. When I say that la quiero mucho I mean that I love her. Im just not sure that when she says it to me she means that she she loves me too, b/c if she translates te quiero into english it means "i like you".  Im open with my feelings and things, she is too but I\'ve seen too many relationships come apart because of those 3 words.
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Well saying it in Spanish is a definate start. I think it\'s time though that you swallow your fears, and just come out with it. In fact, it shouldn\'t be artificial, there should be just anytime where you two might just be alone, and if the mood and setting is right, you just let it out, from the heart, rather than the mind. Also don\'t forget that "te quiero" directly translates to "I want you". Don\'t be afraid of telling how you feel about her, because thats what in fact you\'re doing, she should be flattered and grateful that she has a guy that loves her, and the feeling should also be mutual.

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About sex...She wants to talk about it, but now adays its up to the guy to bring it up. I know she wants to talk about it b/c of the way she reacts to some of the things I say. She\'s very shy too, I want to ask her about how she feels about it and everything, but I have no clue on how to bring it up.
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In that case, go for it. If you know she wants to talk about it, but she\'s too shy, you have to make the first move. Just talk about it like its a casual subject, don\'t lay it on too thick, but don\'t smooth out the edges either.
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« Reply #4 on: April 07, 2003, 07:35:57 PM »
I know...I Know.....well Im up for it.  If I don\'t do it now she might start thinking that I don\'t love her or something...You\'re right lil man (vapor) :)


BTW, Te quiero has different meanings depending no how you say it....
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« Reply #5 on: April 07, 2003, 07:37:02 PM »
Hehe, luckily for my case, while my girlfriend and I were just friends we were saying it to each other. So it was a pretty easy transition.
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« Reply #6 on: April 07, 2003, 07:42:00 PM »
BOOOOORING Sorry Thread HIJACK Turning it into a Jennifer Garner the For Unlawfull Carnel Knowledge..........

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« Reply #7 on: April 07, 2003, 07:43:55 PM »
This thread sucks..

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« Reply #8 on: April 07, 2003, 07:45:13 PM »
HA...Joke\'s on you...Im the one getting some and you aint!!!

hAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

NA NANANANA

BOO YA....

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RIGHT....

Jessica Alba is hotter
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« Reply #9 on: April 07, 2003, 07:46:05 PM »
Not only are you both idiots [Cyrus/Spudz], that Jennifer Garner chick has the ugliest pair of breasts I\'ve ever seen. Ever.
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« Reply #10 on: April 07, 2003, 07:49:57 PM »
^^

Word.

Maybe you two haven\'t reached the level of maturity I have..........

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BOO!!
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« Reply #11 on: April 07, 2003, 08:17:34 PM »
How\'s this...

Your all a bunch of dorks who wouldnt know what to do with a pair of boobs if they fell out of the sky and hit you in the head.
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« Reply #12 on: April 07, 2003, 08:19:27 PM »
If the boobs came with the chick in your avatarr I would know what to do with them....
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« Reply #13 on: April 07, 2003, 08:50:25 PM »
Im a 30 year old dork and its not all about the boobies

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My wife tells me that I paid alot for her boobies so I shouldnt have said that but still Jennifer Garner KICKS ASS!!!!

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« Reply #14 on: April 07, 2003, 08:52:43 PM »
I meant everyone in here \'cept you cyrus... my bad for not mentioning that.
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