Well, I spoke to michael through msn.. Lets just say i learnt a few things.
heres the interesting drama.
[10:04] michael: hello
From my auto away -
[10:04] *** Auto-response sent to michael I haven\'t sent you any messages michael. Try not screwing me over next time we make plans. Despite what you think, it was a total bullshit thing you did saturday night. I\'ll just have to remember next time we\'re doing something and someone calls me, to basically fuck you off if i\'m bored. Ohh, and don\'t reply saying you asked what i wanted to do or if it was ok, you made plans with tony, hanged up the phone and asked to take me home. Didn\'t have much choice.....
[10:14] michael: ok remind me, exactly what plans did we make?
[10:15] michael: actually forget it, just leave me alone, interesting that msn is working now.
[11:52] SoulGrind: dood, i rang up. "michael, u wanna do something tonight, have a few drinks" your reply, "yes" then all of the suddon we\'re back in rowville, you fucking me off for anthony 5 mintues after we\'re talking about what we could do.. pretty fucken lame thing to do.
[11:54] SoulGrind: but off course, you can\'t see how it was a asshole thing to do..
[11:54] michael: actually i can
[11:55] michael: give me a min, and i\'ll try explain
[11:55] SoulGrind: explain away..
Session Close (michael): Tue Jun 07 11:56:08 2005
Session Start (soulgrind3@hotmail.com:michael): Tue Jun 07 12:03:39 2005
[12:03] michael:
I liked it better when you came over now and then for a bbq or a linkup, but now it seems you ring me up every weekend to invite yourself either to my place or to wherever Im going. I like to feel free, and I dont feel like Im free to do what I want. Also when Anthony rings me it usually because he has something on his mind that he wants to talk about. I think I failed to see how rude it was at the time because I was comeing down off an e. So I\'m sorry if I hurt your feelings.
[12:05] SoulGrind: i don\'t call u to linger along dood, if i see you at petes house normally i go because ive been asked by pete or shane.. As for going to your place i ask, i don\'t invite myself. If you don\'t want me around there just say so..
Session Close (michael): Tue Jun 07 12:08:57 2005
Session Start (soulgrind3@hotmail.com:michael): Tue Jun 07 12:09:36 2005
[12:09] michael: so when you ring and ask, whats a nice way for me to say "no, i just wanna stay home with helen, or go for a cruze, or keep my options open, instead of commiting myself to an evening with you?"
[12:10] michael: its not easy
[12:10] michael: maybe im just not good enough with words, but i dont think theres a polite way to go about it
[12:10] SoulGrind: simply say, nar don\'t feel like doing anything... but hey, if our friendship goes as far as i\'m just a good buddy for when u have nothing better to do, then its a shitty friendship to begin with.
[12:12] michael: We shouldnt have to catch up every weekend, I see shane less than that and im still freinds with him.
[12:13] SoulGrind: i have no problems with that dood, i ring shane, he can say, nar i don\'t feel like doing anything and i\'m fine with that..
[12:14] michael: I feel like if I say "nah, dont feel like doing anything", and then you hear about me doing something, that you will be offended.
[12:16] SoulGrind: wouldn\'t u be? if u rang me, and i said "nar i don\'t feel like doing something" then u heard that i went out with someone else.. u wouldn\'t be offended?
[12:17] michael: nope, I\'d just figure you felt like hanging out with whoever that person was.
[12:18] SoulGrind: personally i find it offensive... but i guess thats just me... wouldn\'t surprise me if most people thought that way..
[12:18] michael: I really wouldnt mind
[12:18] SoulGrind: ok, so basically i shouldn\'t bother calling u anymore and wait for u to contact me?
[12:18] michael: you shouldnt have to make an effort to see all your freinds at once
[12:20] michael: nah, ring me
[12:20] michael: but if I wanna keep my options open, dont expect me to make plans
[12:20] SoulGrind: but then you\'d feel trapped and would say yes, when u really are thinking no?
[12:20] michael: vise -versa
[12:21] SoulGrind: i don\'t mind u saying no to me, just don\'t make plans with me then fuck me over during them for whatever reason.
[12:21] michael: now that we have had this conversation, I wont feel trapped, coz i know you understand now.
[12:22] SoulGrind: its like this, i treat others how i\'d want to be treated.. i expect the same from mates.
[12:23] michael: same, we didnt really have plans, the only thing we planned was to catch up, and we did that, we had no further plans at the time i dropped you off.
[12:24] michael: If had of been you that wanted to go do something else I would have been cool with it.
[12:24] SoulGrind: we stood at your front door, i asked u if u cared if i stayed the rest of the night, u said its fine... i call that a plan.
[12:25] michael: yeah i guess it was, like i said i was a bit scattered.
[12:26] SoulGrind: don\'t take drugs... they\'re bad mmmmkay.
[12:26] michael: i\'d better do some work
[12:26] SoulGrind: laterz.
What i learnt from this.
1. Michael pretty much only contacts me when he has nothing better to do or wants something.
2. He seems to have this feeling that i\'m everywhere he is, yet i\'ve been invited by other people to be there, not even knowing michael will be there. Being mates places, pubs, clubs etc
(side rant) Whats even more retarded is we have a circle of friends that hang out every weekend, what am i meant to do, say no to my other mates because michael will most likely be there.
3. Drugs are bad mmmmkay. They\'ve made a person that used to be a cool dood into some paranoid asshole..
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